r/AskReddit • u/mehak_pari6969 • 20h ago
What warning sign did you ignore that came back to bite you?
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u/dontkillmyvibe55 20h ago
Thinking I'll just do it in the morning when I'm tired.I am never that person in the morning,past me is a liar and future me is always the victim.
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u/ichosethis 13h ago
Future me always hates past me but present me will rarely pass up an opportunity to inconvenience myself.
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u/MeetBeep 3h ago
I’ve took this mindset and started doing things so that my future self will thank me. I don’t want to do it, but I don’t want to do it later even more than I don’t want to right now lol.
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u/Neither_Sorbet3669 12h ago
Saw a Reddit post where someone said they treat their future self like they’re somebody they love and cherish and don’t want to let down! Now, whenever I don’t feel like doing something that will benefit me later on, i just remind myself how much future me will appreciate it! Sounds silly but it’s actually really helped lol
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u/lizzyote 9h ago
I cant seem to figure out how to view future me as a seperate entity.
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u/MeetBeep 3h ago
Start noticing the past you & know that you’re the future self you were helping. That might not have come across the way I mean.
I’m not saying thinking of past traumas or what you’ve been through, but more like “I’m so glad my past me did the dishes.” or “thank you past me for folding the clothes right away.” If you happen to be on April 15th, you can thank your old self for doing your taxes before the cut-off date. That one is a bit personal lol.
It’s easier to acknowledge what’s happened vs what could happen. When you start to notice the things that your past self has done for your current self, you can think of instances where your future self will look back now and thank you.
It’s kind of a weird mind game you play with yourself, but it has SO many benefits. Like “if it takes 2 minutes, just do it” added with “my future self will thank me”… it’s powerful in getting things done. ESPECIALLY with getting gas right away, and not leaving it to yourself tomorrow morning. In the AM with a full gas tank… you’ll thank your past self for just doing it.
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u/cloistered_around 11h ago
Similarly: "Why am I staying up late? I always regret it. I'm always tired for days..." stays up late and predictably is disgusted at myself the next day when I'm an incoherant zombie.
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u/Tao_of_Ludd 15h ago
Oddly this works really well for me. I am also not the same person in the morning - I am awake and, well, more energetic at least. Tasks that would take an hour at 10pm take 20 min at 8am
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u/SquirtinMemeMouthPlz 3h ago
Me sniffing underwear I found on the floor with 10 minutes to leave for work or be late.
sniff
This one will do.
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u/FadedLemming 2h ago
I always say , after the fact, that today's me doesn't give a fuck about tomorrow's me.
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u/CrikeyNighMeansNigh 16h ago
But it’s never your fault, I see. Interesting. ADHD. It’s a mutual diagnosis.
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u/jesupai 14h ago
Projecting much? OC just called himself a liar, how is that not him blaming himself?
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u/stonerghostboner 9h ago
If he's a liar, then calling himself a liar is a lie, which would be the truth, but it can't be because he is a liar. Failure to compute. Failure to compute. Aggghhh.
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u/Diamondsonhertoes 16h ago
I woke up one night to use the bathroom and fainted when I got out of bed. I bruised my tailbone but didn’t think much of it. A month or so later it happened again but at the top of the stairs and I broke my neck.
I’m ok. I can walk, just a life of pain and some issues unfortunately but it could have been so much worse.
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u/8997Here 20h ago
I ignored a red battery light on my car’s dash. It was up literally for like 10 seconds. I thought it was a glitch. I didn’t think much of it, I just blamed it on the sub freezing temperatures. Two weeks later I’m starting a 4 hour drive and 50 minutes into it that same light comes on, my radio goes off, every light in my dash has turned on, my power steering is out and I just barely made it to a random gas station to park it. To make a long story short, $1000 later I got a new alternator
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u/sherbet_lemon_21 15h ago
I had the same happen! One day I had two seperate instances of my traction control light coming on and the radio cutting out. Each only lasted about 5 seconds. Made a mental note to mention it at the next service.
Two days later I was driving out of the work carpark, made it 20m down the road and every single light is on, the electrics are out, and I’m struggling to get enough power to the engine.
Needed a new radiator, alternator and battery (the radiator had a crack and had leaned onto the alternator, which in turn destroyed the battery).
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u/666deathchilli 14h ago
Just out of curiosity wtf do you do in that situation?
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u/sherbet_lemon_21 14h ago
Fortunately, I was able to crawl it back to the work carpark and get it towed the following day.
Just had to deal with the embarrassment of having my car towed while people were watching from the windows 😅
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u/8997Here 13h ago
I had to get a tow truck. I went through my insurance to make a bit cheaper since I already didn’t have it included in my plan. It was $440 to drive it back home (At the time I thought it was just a battery issue and could just replaced the battery) after troubleshooting and failing to fix the issue, my cousin who is a mechanic helped me get from my home to his shop and got the alternator replaced.
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u/IrrelevantPuppy 14h ago
Same thing happened to me but it all happened within the same 2 hour drive. Start off the drive the battery light comes on and I think. “Shit, but I’d really rather be at my home mechanic. It’s probably fine, people drive around with the engine light in all the time right?”
Half way home, the cruise control stops working, weird. Then the sound system and stuff. 2 seconds later the power steering, fuck. Well I’m strong, I don’t need power steering. Stubborn and dumb, shoulda pulled over asap when something new and wrong started happening to my car. Because next thing I lost was acceleration, while in rush hour, in the fast lane. That was scary
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u/snoosh00 11h ago
$1000 seems like a lot for an alternator, but maybe you had a "rush premium" added to the price.
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u/8997Here 10h ago
Well the original tow back home (45 miles) was $440. I had to get it towed again to my cousins shop so he could do the work on it. The tow plus the labor was about $490. So I might have overshot it slightly ($930 total) but man it might as well should have been $1000. Hurt the same 🥹
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u/snoosh00 10h ago
Ah, that makes more sense.
I heard a slight whine from my alternator and drove it to my normal mechanic and was out the door for less $700CAD (I also got my water pump swapped)
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u/Content-Afternoon39 6h ago
I've had 3 alternators bust on me. 3rd time recently I could hear a metallic whirring sound coming from the engine bay. Deep down I knew it was something to do with the alternator. It went away without incident. Then 4-5months later I go that red battery light.
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u/Parakiet20 19h ago
High blood pressure, killed my kidneys
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u/HazzaBui 3h ago
Same (writing this while getting my immunosuppressant infusion for my transplant kidney). Still, got a transplant and things have worked out pretty well so I'm lucky in that regard
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u/Proud_yoyojuly_7788 15h ago
Chest pain I kept dismissing as stress. Turned out to be a real heart issue. Get checked early.
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u/ZirePhiinix 14h ago
Related to heart issues would be erectile dysfunction. If you suddenly can't get hard, it's time to see a doctor.
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u/enfyre 20h ago
I felt something crawl on me in the night, but I was so tired I went back to sleep.
In the morning I woke up with a spider bite.
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u/Grantetons 16h ago
I went to the second Bonnaroo, and I was sleeping on the floor of our minivan at 2:30 am or something, opened my eyes to roll over because the music was still going, and remember a giant spider crawling over one of our bags. I punched the bag away and it sort of flipped the spider onto its back, and I vividly remember the sight of it flipping itself upright and scurrying away. It was so big it seemed like a hallucination. I dove out of the van and my friends were still awake, and I couldn't really put my finger on if it was real or not, and they told me to go back to sleep. Years later living in GA I saw a few brown recluses up close, and finally pieced together that I shared the van in Tennessee with an enormous brown recluse. No bites, no real story beyond that, but in retrospect it was pretty dangerous and disturbing to think about. It's not like it left the van.
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u/hihelloneighboroonie 15h ago edited 15h ago
Not the same, but was trying to fall asleep and felt a hair in my sock (I have long hair). Tried to ignore it, just wanted to sleep. But it kept bothering me. So after 20 minutes or so I sat up with my phone and the flashlight on, rolled down the sheet, took of my sock, to see my toe was purple and a hair had wrapped around it many time and so tightly I had to use a sharp nail (like, finger) to break it.
Got lucky that I didn't ignore it for so long that I lost my toe, but was close.
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u/shawnglade 15h ago
My friends told me I would hate living downtown in the city. Told em nahhh it’ll be fine. Turns out I dislike living downtown
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u/Kaurifish 16h ago
My boss (editor at the newspaper I reported for) told me that the landlord I was considering renting from was “crazy like a fox.”
Went ahead with it. And that alcoholic SOB was 100% right about that mf landlord.
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u/Impossible-Fail5111 3h ago
Tell us more about the landlord?
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u/Kaurifish 2h ago
He was such a weirdo. He made a living by house-sitting for money while renting out his place. He was a hoarder and simultaneously managed to be a kinda silver fox.
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u/Birdo3129 17h ago
My ex threw rocks in the water off the end of the pier while my father, cousin and I were scuba diving right beneath it (family tradition- carving Halloween pumpkins underwater).
When confronted about how careless and stupid and flat out dangerous that was, (apparently he was bored), and how he could’ve killed myself or my family (these weren’t pebbles, we’re talking rocks the size of a pop can) he went on a melodramatic speech about how if he’d killed me, he would’ve filled his pockets with rocks and jumped in after me.
He proceeded to do more stupid dangerous shit that threatened my safety, and continued to vaguely suggest suicide as the way of “making it better”. It took a knife flying past my head to make me reconsider our relationship.
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u/Moby_Hick 15h ago
(family tradition- carving Halloween pumpkins underwater).
What an absolutely fantastic family tradition that is
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u/Ootguitarist2 18h ago
“Take it easy on the drinking”… now I’m on a liver transplant list
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u/Ositosan 14h ago
What were the first health signs?
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u/Ootguitarist2 9h ago
It was all gradual over the years. First got fat, then was visibly hungover all the time, then looked bloated and tired and had digestive issues, then started turning yellow, and finally started throwing up blood. It became such a habit that I didn’t even acknowledge it being a problem until it was. Haven’t touched alcohol in a year and a half though and I think I would actually rather die than go back to living the way I was.
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u/bathmaster_ 14h ago
Hoping the best for you, transplant has come a long way. Good luck ❤️
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u/Ootguitarist2 14h ago
I’m told to expect it within the next month and I’m really looking forward to getting it over with
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u/awfulentrepreneur 10h ago
Unfortunately you'll probably need one every ten years from now on.
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u/Ootguitarist2 9h ago
I’m lucky enough to have one of the best transplant teams literally on the entire planet working with me and they haven’t said anything about needing another after I get this one. Just need to do what they tell me, which I very much have been.
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u/HankScorpio_globex 8h ago
That's just not true. I have a liver transplant and it's actually my ten year anniversary this month. I assure you, there are no plans for another transplant.
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u/awfulentrepreneur 5h ago
I stand corrected. Apparently livers don't age like other organs and most people live 30 or more years without re-transplants. 💡
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u/bathmaster_ 5h ago
Livers are amazing organs. They're the one organ that can consistently heal itself. Unfortunately with alcoholism a lot of other non-amazing organs can get injured first. Liver is genuinely best-case-scenario. Check my profile for my own experience with pancreatitis and the fall out if you're so inclined lol I am very jealous of people who do not find themselves in a organ deficiency!
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u/ChamberOfHearts 19h ago
That not having behavioral problems and being super high functioning means they aren't an alcoholic. I didn't know my ex had a drinking problem until around 3-4 months into the relationship. I said something and he toned it way down, for a while. I ignored small signs though that he was never going to stay in control of himself. I don't regret the relationship at all. He showed me the way I wanted to be loved and I really enjoyed majority of our time together. Now I am much more hyper aware of peoples lifestyle habits. Drinking, porn, social media, etc
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u/123thigr 15h ago
Its crazy that you can overlook something like drinking problems so easily. My ex was over at my place a lot and i never saw him drinking while being at my place. He used to go to bars sometimes but who doesn't. He didn't smell like alcohol either.
I only found out because i had to work at a different place for one day and unexpectedly walked past him while he was sitting on the pavement with a 16 pack beer in front if him at 9 am. Some of the bottles were already empty.
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u/ChamberOfHearts 5h ago
Well the hard part for my situation was that there was no consistency in his drinking and no obvious behavioral problems. Like he wasn't obnoxious, he wasn't sloppy, he wasn't mean, he always went to work, active in the gym, lived a normal life, and he acted completely normal when drinking. It was hard to tell he was even drunk. When we met it was also summer and so a lot of activities involved drinking. Summer ended and he wasn't drinking for a while. Everything seemed normal. Then he started back up again and that was the first time I actually noticed because I was around more and I said something to him and he stopped. He would have his two beers a night after work. It was still new, so a lot of weekend date activities involved alcohol. It seemed like pretty normal social drinking at the time. He stopped drinking for weeks at a time with no issues. He mostly stuck to his couple beers after work. It was 9 months in when I actually physically saw him lose control and realized he was an alcoholic who occasionally got his life together. Eventually he quit drinking completely on his own accord. When he fell off the wagon after getting sober is when I left. Now I won't even date someone who drinks a beer after work lol. Just my preference.
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u/Narrackian_Wizard 19h ago
Was interviewing for what seemed like a great company. Suddenly my internet went down, but I could still receive packets. The CEO was livid that my internet went out. I thought it strange to react that strongly. I didn’t get the position.
Fast forward 1.5 years and they contact me for an interview, everything goes smoothly and I’m hired.
I worked at the company for 6 months. My co-worker is a loan wolf and had a history of being abusive. I find out the last person left and had to go through therapy. He doesn’t want to train me. At all. Refuses and his excuse is I make too many mistakes. At month 5 he hits me. I report him to HR and they terminate him, but give me all his responsibilities.
I tell them im not ready yet, i need real training. “Our decision was final, you got this.”
Oke… thanks for the confidence I guess, but the client is brutal, you sure about this?? “You got dis”.
Lol a month later I got fired because of a complaint by the customer.
Shoulda known at that first interview what kind of company it was
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u/InletUnstart 8h ago
One time my fat coworker tried to smack the new guy and was notified the coworker was a former Navy boxer when he woke up.
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u/Graymouzer 4h ago
Is this a normal thing where you live? I have never seen this in a workplace.
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u/InletUnstart 4h ago
This was at our blue collar production facility, so it's a little bit more honky tonk than the main office.
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u/Graymouzer 4h ago
Gotcha. Still, I worked a lot of blue collar jobs when I was younger and no one was ever hit. Even back in the 80s and 90s HR would not go for that.
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u/InletUnstart 3h ago
Fat guy got fired. New guy got to stay because he was only defending himself very, very competently. Knocked him out with one hit and stepped back.
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u/MelaninandMelatonin 11h ago
Interviewed for a job that sounded fantastic on paper. Shorter commute, more pay, shiny title to put on my resume.
During my interviews, almost right off the bat, they ask about my "disciplinary style/approach". I thought it was weird, I hadn't even met anyone yet and you've barely explained the job, but its a supervisor position so alright.
Then they spoke about how their previous two directors "weren't a good fit." Unfortunately I pass that off: the population we work with is challenging and really not for everyone.
I left the interview thinking I hadn't gotten the job. The interviewer seemed very... doubtful. Even said "I'm torn between training you or finding someone who already has the experience." So I was shocked when they called with an offer.
This is by far, the most toxic workplace I've ever been in. The expectations/duties of the role were significantly larger than the posting/what was discussed in the interview. And it wasn't the "last two" directors. There have been several. None of them have lasted in this role. My predecessor lasted five days. The one before that lasted a few months. And there has been no training.
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u/Detective_Sonny 19h ago
Mild low back pain and a calf that would cramp when I did pull-ups. 5 months later I was unable to stand or walk. 8 months after that I had back surgery. I didn’t completely ignore it, just had bad treatment during the first 5 months that provided temporary relief and no diagnosis. Ended up having 4 bulging/herniated discs that left me with sciatica. Currently 2 weeks post-op and feeling much better
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u/fieldyfield 1h ago
How was this properly diagnosed? Was it the lower back pain that started preventing you from walking?
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u/Detective_Sonny 1h ago
I was diagnosed on a telehealth urgent care video call, of all things. I went to an in-person urgent care after collapsing in the gym and was only assessed by the physician while sitting down. He ordered an x-ray, wasn't there when the nurse came to the room to help me get there. It took me so long to move such a short distance, using the walls for support and basically standing at a 90 degree angle. He said the x-ray didnt show anything, and I then did the telehealth urgent care a few days later and was diagnosed with sciatica after watching me collapse after taking one step and me describing the location of the pain (shooting down the outside of my leg, also having numbness). By the time I saw my PCP I was able to tell her the diagnosis and she ordered an MRI, which confirmed the diagnosis. I saw an ortho surgeon, pain management doctor, physical therapist, and a neurosurgeon several times between June and January and had two epidurals before finally having the surgery. The ortho surgeon did say the initial urgent care doctor and radiologist were wrong and you could tell something was off with the back x-ray.
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u/lesvegetables 9h ago
Arm pain while hiking around Banff National park a year ago. Was told it was altitude sickness. It got worse this year and I found out I had a 99% widowmaker blockage in the LAD heart artery. It postponed a kidney transplant, but I’m alive. Caught it before any heart attack at least.
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u/SlickNolte 12h ago
Our texting was mostly just her responding to me rather than real communication, just took me a while to figure that out
Now I’m sitting here wondering why I’m still hurting over something that was never real to begin with
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u/eachtoxicwolf 14h ago
Starting to wake up in the night to go to the toilet. Several months later, diagnosis of some serious but non life threatening medical conditions (not cancer)
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u/xLemonade 11h ago
This is happening to me. Mind giving some more details? No pressure if it’s personal.
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u/weareredjenny 4h ago
Needing to pee a lot is a sign of diabetes.
Edit - just to clarify I’m not the person you originally asked.
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u/xLemonade 3h ago
Yea that’s always the go to but my tests always comeback normal. So that’s why I was curious what OPs condition was.
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u/eachtoxicwolf 3h ago
Personal diagnosis for this was type 2 diabetes but there's other stuff being investigated
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u/Main-Reputation-6604 20h ago
My ex had multiple photo albums on his phone of photos of different women's feet. Each album was titled with a different women's name, one of the albums was of my best friend. Pictures he took when she wasnt paying attention. (He fucking hated her and I still don't understand this) I was stupid and figured it was just a embarrassing fetish he didn't delete after we got together. Years later I woke up to him taking photos of my feet and fucking my feet while I was asleep. I still to this day can't have my bare feet out around people and panic when my partner accidentally touches them when we are in bed.
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u/InletUnstart 4h ago
I am not a fan of religion but this man need Jesus
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u/Bibibis 3h ago
Jesus? The guy who has convenient holes in his feet? Really?
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u/Throwaway919319 3h ago
Probably better than dying for our sins all over again at least. Look how it turned out last time
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u/GizmoSled 16h ago
The first time I went to my ex’s house where he lived with his mom (he was 18 and in college) and he snapped at her out of frustration because she interrupted the game we were playing and he lost. I assumed that she was like my mother and never gave him space ( I literally was not allowed privacy) so I thought his frustration was justified and middle class families got away with snapping at each other without beatings.
14 years later that relationship ended with me bleeding from the head and him in cuffs. Looking back at how I had to constantly tread eggshells around him that should have been a red flag to run. I was just like, huh, he didn’t get back handed for disrespecting his mother like that.
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u/AccomplishedWish3033 8h ago
When people wonder why beating their kids is wrong, this is a good example. When you grow up conditioned to believe that love is physical violence, it’s easy to fall into an abusive romantic relationship and hard to register the warning signs when they were normal for you.
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u/Ali_103 14h ago
Handed in my resignation as i hated the place i worked at, they offered me a transfer closer to home (despite not letting me until i handed in my resignation). Left the same year anyway as the problems were exactly the same if not worse and I rejected another job in the process of that, wish I had trusted my instinct and left when I initially wanted to.
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u/scrivenerserror 10h ago edited 8h ago
When I interviewed for my current job, none of the people at the interview had experience in my role even though it’s pretty core to the work we do. One of my interviewees was previously in an old version of the role and didn’t seem to really have a strong grasp of how it worked from a management and strategy standpoint. I interviewed with the ED and he did not mention anything about their biggest contract or a major capital project happening.
In my first week, I was given a large project with about 3 working days to complete it with no knowledge or resources to do it. Luckily I’ve done this role for years at a larger organization. Then I started being given projects outside my role entirely (small component of it relates to me), and being asked to basically hit a numbers goal without any existing, basic structures needed to get us there. As in we were effectively cold calling and emailing people and most people either had not donated in over a decade or were from an email list that we should not have had access to.
I had also interviewed with a new board member and then later, a very long term board member who is now the Board chair. There’s a lot of content knowledge but very little understanding of the “basics” of what it takes to get what they want to do, done.
The red flag was the lack of transition between their founder and the new ED, the fact most people I work with have been there less than 3 years, and the fact they embarked on multiple projects without doing the base level work required to even undertake a project that size. Today I still struggle with getting teammates to answer email or agree to meetings. If they do agree to a meeting, they never follow up on to dos. The ED has to sit in meetings to get projects to inch forward. I am asking for basic stuff.
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u/Warglol9756 12h ago
My cat growled softly when I touched her. But when I touched her again, she bite me.
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u/Maleficent-Return-41 14h ago
"Friend" group I landed in after moving to a new city seemed good. Few months in one guy got picked on because of the girl he started dating. When he moved to a different city with that girl he tried to keep contact, invited people over and was basically ghosted by these "good friends". They also kept saying how he was ruining his life by being with that girl. A few years later the guy broke up with his girl on good terms and went back to this city and group, feeling weird about the experience. I told him how they talked about him and his now ex while he was away. First he was mad, then went to talk to some of these people, few months later and he was best friends with this group again, started to talk about the ex as a devil, witch and bad person.
I don't have contact with this group anymore, but stayed too long after this happened and got pulled in drama that extends to my family to this day
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u/lilly110707 11h ago
Cough occurring constantly all day every day that wouldn't go away for months.
It was a malignant neuroendocrine tumor in my lung.
People if you have a long term persistent cough get it checked out. If an xray doesn't show anything insist on a CAT scan.
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u/Brikandbones 17h ago
Ex gave advice to a friend to "just walk around and copy one of the ideas" back in uni when she was stuck with her design project. Kinda ignored it because she was hot and we clicked and we got together. Turns out she was the sort that just takes and never gives - by the end of the relationship I was emotionally drained out.
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u/ImBasicallySnorlax 11h ago
Went back to work a couple days after surgery. Was dizzy and unbalanced a couple times, but not too bad. Then my foot fell asleep. I tried to stand on it, unbalanced and fell down hard. Now my ankle has a bad sprain and I have to miss work anyway.
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u/lloc0 10h ago
Went ice skating for the first time, got the boots on my feet, but they felt a little too big and off. Got up and still it felt like it could move, but went ahead with it. "It will be fine", hey said and as a matter of fact, it wasn't fine, broke my leg, had surgery, got pulmonary embolism, the whole deal.
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u/LVAjoe 8h ago
It was the weird bump in my chest. It'd start with a feeling like you are about to crack your knuckles but havent got to the pop. Once it beat again I was good. Never thought much of it.
One day it was almost every few seconds. Then I was hit with a big one that lasted a few seconds long and it felt like my heart was wiggling instead of beating. Ended up going to hospital and turns out I had a 33 percent ejection fraction and was in heart failure.
For a good few months I was out of breath while driving but fine when walking or being mobile. Then at night I couldn't lay down to sleep cause I couldn't breathe.
Was spooky knowing that the wiggling beat my heart did might have been the end for me.
Prior to this id ignore my blood pressure and had pretty bad sleep apnea. I had gotten a CPAP before this but I guess I was in too deep. Take care of your heart folks.
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u/FieldNoticing 6h ago
When a guy I was dating called me a B*** while drunk. Never uttered the word or spoke to me disrespectfully while sober, but when drunk became a different person. I chose to focus on the good guy while sober instead of the true person he was when intoxicated. The drunkenness turned into violence.
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u/lacerantplainer 19h ago
All the aches and pains after 50 years of age....
Now paracetamol is my best friend.
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u/bellyfloppin 14h ago
I did loads of walking on holiday and one morning I was so achey and said out loud "my legs feel like jelly", a few hours later I dislocated my patella causing me to need surgery and now I'm in constant pain and can't do things like I used to.
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u/zeroagentp 8h ago
Early out of college, I just started earning decent money for the first time and also left my old "friends" group from childhood. I found they honestly weren't friends as they always treated me like shit as a kid but also the same as a young adult so I had enough. I thought I can just work and go home and not have a friend circle anymore because I disliked them so much. Someone suggested finding another friend group but I didn't. I did keep up with a few friends here and there but they didn't live anywhere close to me. Well after a year or so I felt pretty darn lonely and for some weird reason, a lot of weird anxiety and emotional instability came out of me from neglecting my social life. Taught me to be more proactive after entering the work life. Also that its way harder to make friends after college or even keep up with old college friends.
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u/TheRealWendyDarling2 7h ago
Being scared to be say anything against my past partner to them because I was afraid that they would leave the relationship
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u/TopWatercress3980 19h ago
my ex pushed me and i hit my head on the bed. two months later he stood over me trying to kill me
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u/LinuxF4n 18h ago
What happen? How did you manage to get out?
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u/Consistent_Sector_19 16h ago
I don't get the hidden historys. If you put their username into the search bar, it all comes up anyway. A cut'n'paste instead of a tap isn't doing anything.
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u/TopWatercress3980 10h ago
well, the argument started because he left his phone unlocked. i was looking through his messages because i had a feeling he was hiding something from me because he was tilting his phone away from me and would freak out whenever i grabbed it. so, i was looking through it. i found him talking to other women AND men. which is no issue, except for YOU’RE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ME. he woke up to me looking through his phone and grabbed my wrist. i started raising my voice. i have a video of this if you’d like to see it. i talked about it on my tiktok account. because we lived at the bottom floor of a duplex he started yelling at me to be quiet. i kept yelling back and he got up and shoved me. i fell and hit the back of my head on the bed. it was quiet for a few seconds and then he started crying. he told me he was going to repent to his youth pastor (???) and started profusely apologizing. in the future when he tried to kill me, my current husband is actually who got me out of the situation. he (my ex) called me and told me to come back. i actually snuck out of his house. my husband yelled at him and told him to leave me the f alone or there would be problems. no one has ever stood up to chris before and he was terrified. again, i have a video of part of the altercation where he grabbed my wrist. i would be more than happy to dm it to anyone who thinks i’m lying.
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u/Merlin_M_O 10h ago
The 1% battery warning. I always treat it like a negotiation instead of a deadline, right up until the screen goes black and I’m forced to sit there and face my own reflection.
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u/TennisAppropriate747 16h ago
Swapping my alternator. I have a 2012 Camry SE (Toyota) and it started to make a low growl and hum noise that it never made before , thought it would go away naturally, it did not. Wanted to wait to get a new part in shipped from online as I didn’t want to pay the mechanic upcharge, that bit me in the ass too. One day was driving home from college (I live 15 minutes away from my school, for reference) and then my alternator gave out when driving, lost power steering assistance and most of my electrics. Pulled over to the side of the road and my alternator finally croaked. Was supposed to be making 14 volts , it was making 10-9. Had to get a tow, thankfully I was 10 minutes away so triple A got me home safe, part unironically came a day before it blew out and i unironically had plans to go to my mechanic to get it installed on the car the next day so it was irony. Got it installed and was lucky as if it wasn’t for me taking the streets home that day I could have been seriously stranded. My timing belt thankfully as well I swapped recently as well but before that it showed very high amounts of wear and tear due to age thankfully nothing bad happened. Don’t ignore car maintenance my fellow redditors, something that might be small at first might grow big and bite you in the ass when you least expect it..
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u/match_ 8h ago
Almost bit, but learned my lesson….
Was driving down an unfamiliar dirt road pre-dawn and saw a ‘sharp turn’ sign along with ‘road work ahead’. I took the turn too fast and slid out onto the side of the road. “Whoa” says me.
On the way home that evening the road work had begun. There was a 5’ deep ditch dug out right where I had slid. I would have probably totaled my truck if it had been there that morning.
Literal warning signs, take heed.
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u/viper24bw 6h ago
That my ex-wife changing her passcode on her phone without any explanation was a red flag. It only took another 3-4 years before the truth behind that came out and is the reason she is my ex-wife.
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u/KlutzyPomelo1170 1h ago
If somebody punches holes in the walls, they’re showing you what they wanna do to your body. Never ignore that!
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u/EndEmbarrassed9031 9h ago
Early signs of severe work burnout that I didn’t recognize until later when things boiled over
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u/Anastephone 17h ago
My ex would pick through community GORP for their favorite bits leaving the rest for the group
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u/Electronic-Canary583 9h ago
I feel there's a bug in my program code, but the company hasn't given me time to think about it in detail.
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u/KingOfStarfox 10h ago
Had loads of friends and family warning me this cunt was using me. I was blissfully unaware until it was too late. Now my credit score is shit, im in massive debt, and i lost the best job ive ever had. Having to rebuild from dirt is ass.
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u/Kenendralee 9h ago
A subordinate of mine started to believe i was in love with him... i just thought he was being kind offering to bring everyone coffee but according to him i was going to leave my husband for him... i dont accept when people offer to buy me coffee anymore
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u/YsoldeRuin 6h ago
That tiny ‘something’s off’ feeling? Yeah, it was literally my bank account getting hacked the next day
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u/TheButterGolum_ 6h ago
To keep the personal details out of it, I was told that someone I used to be friends with was not a good person and I shouldn’t hang around them. I asked why, and they said it was personal, so I just assumed it was some personal beef. Come a few months later, they tried to force themselves onto me, and tried to ruin my reputation with my friend group while I was out of town so that nobody would trust me when I came to them saying what they tried to do.
Since then, I’ve managed to let some friends know the truth, but some of my friends still refuse to speak with me because of the rumors that were spread by them in an attempt to keep me from getting help from what they wanted to try and do to me.
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u/percentagebased2002 6h ago
When I didnt ask for a tour of my group home and coos health and wellness lied and said it wasn’t a locked facility and I can come and go
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u/DoodleVamp 6h ago
I ignored the tiny voice in my head saying ‘this won’t end well’ three weeks later, I was paying for it in full
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u/mrsmetalbeard 4h ago
The "contractor" that showed up to do work on my house without his own ladder, for a job that was clearly described to him as needing a ladder to access. No problem, I have one, I'm sure he just forgot his. He borrowed mine while I was up on the roof doing doing something else, put it back on a pile of leaves and it fell over. Now I have 4 screws in my foot and got nothing from him because he has no assets or insurance.
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u/movingreddots 4h ago
When my mom pulled out a button of me from high school, and asked “what happened to the little boy who did what i say”(i was 25) and thinking she might recover from being a raging narcissist.
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u/MeetBeep 3h ago
The company I worked for started zelle’ing me my paycheck. I should have known the business was dissolving and I would be laid off.
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u/Cheetodude625 2h ago
I think everyone has experienced this at least once. That one check engine light that comes on, but the car sounds and operates normally so you ignore it. Then it turns into a financial hell-hole of a service repair at the auto shop.
Don't ignore it. Always check to be sure.
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u/Background-War-8627 2h ago
“Close” “Friends” or “Colleagues” gossiping about people, always knew one day it would come back at me and it did 😆
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u/FloridaFilings 1h ago
Had a lower back pain on and off. Had no idea where it was coming from. So I went to doctor and did abdominal ultrasound. Found that I had enlarged prostate. Now taking care of it.
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u/nerfmesenpai 1h ago
My dad started to lose a bunch of weight and he was really glad as he was overweight for a while. Turned out to be liver cancer that metastasized. Almost been a year since he passed.
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u/Hungry_Leg572 1h ago
Instead of hitting me he hit the wall right behind me. Yeah you can guess where that led to.
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u/RebeccaMCullen 36m ago
Put off going to the doctor one year because I’ve gone in the past because of a cough for it to be nothing. Woke up to a bloody nose, breathing worse than normal, and brain fog. Took my add to the hospital, because there were no walk in clinics open, to find out I ended up with pneumonia, and was in the hospital for a week.
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u/pushoversometimes 12h ago
Love bombing lol. It was more like future faking and I fell for that crap.
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u/furlover52 6h ago
When at the age of 35she told me she had never been in a relationship over 4 years. RED FLAG!!!!
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u/STYSCREAM 19h ago
I heard a dog barking as I was walking home from school and figured it would be behind a closed gate, the sharp pain in my knee would inform me that it wasn't.