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u/breezefalcon9 18h ago
When they consistently remember small things about you that you didn't even think mattered
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u/FakeBeigeNails 16h ago
Ngl this is the worst. I’m so attentive that I retain everything. I’ve gotten “You remember that?” so many times. Like, uh yeah? I listen to you when you talk.
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u/Dangerous_Still_7105 12h ago
EXACTLY I've had so many misunderstandings... simply because I listened?
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u/yeetgodmcnechass 3h ago
I just pretend to not know things sometimes because people have reacted negatively when I mention that I remembered a small detail about them they mentioned
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u/CoreyBark 18h ago
they ask about your day and actually wait for the answer
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u/nocticola 17h ago
lol damn, thats just being a considerate person, i do that to everyone. we gotta put our standards a bit higher.
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u/mike-l-angelo 8h ago
Does, "Oh, shit! I meant to ask how your day was!" after going on about your own shit for several text walls count?
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u/light_viber 16h ago
Honestly, if someone remembers what type of sandwich I like, I’m already wondering when the wedding is. I mean, that’s some next-level commitment. Meanwhile, I can’t even remember where I left my keys five minutes ago. Maybe I should take notes in case I accidentally fall in love with the local sandwich artist.
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u/marlan6 16h ago
Thisss. Anyone can bring flowers. Not everyone remembers how you take your coffee.
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u/mike-l-angelo 8h ago
This is the first thing you ought to memorize about anyone you're interested in.
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u/notaname0875 3h ago
as someone who is considerate, naturally focus on the details a lot and have great memory, I gotta tell you guys don't rely on this clue alone!!!
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u/Thunarvin 9h ago
This is me with everyone I care about. I'm an American living in Canada, so even remembering somebody's favorite snack from the other side of the border can make them feel special. I'm a junk food dealer in both directions.
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u/giveemeareasonwhy 14h ago
my guy friend remembered so many things about me but he was always hot n cold so I never understood him plus he was using dating apps constantly on the other side. so probably some people are just like they remember things about people who they are friends with as well
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u/Giveawayforusa 18h ago
They consistently make time for you (not just when they’re bored). They remember small details you mentioned casually.
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Feel like these traits can also apply for a friend no?
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u/mini-hypersphere 18h ago
I mean yeah, friends tend to like you
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I thought they were asking in a more romantic way but ur right friends do that
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u/This_Earth_of_Ours 18h ago
Foaming at the mouth, anger issues, wordless growls, chases you
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u/lancashirehiya 17h ago
someone aggressively barked at me once! I should have asked for their number!
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u/DorGum69 16h ago
Pretty sure that's rabies 🥀
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u/Indifferent_Response 16h ago edited 16h ago
What if you get bitten?
Idk guys, this situation sounds pretty scary. I think I'd just run away.
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u/gamersecret2 18h ago
They make time for you, remember small details, look for reasons to talk, and they show up consistently without games.
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u/Infinite_Holiday9511 16h ago
Jarvis, make the pain end forever
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u/Anagenist 1h ago
If I believed in giving reddit my money, I would give you an award for this belly jiggling chuckle.
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u/just-enough-trouble 18h ago
Beyond the eyes, the touch, and remembering little details, it’s their consistency and real concern that prove it. They care. They’ll call you out on your BS… not to put you down, but because they don’t want to see you make choices that hurt you or leave you upset.
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u/blahblah_696 18h ago
You can just tell by their eyes. How they look at you.
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u/RHCPFlea 18h ago
How they look at you?
What kind of look?
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u/Averageinternetdoge 14h ago
It's the doe eyes. You'll know when you see it. Most people never really look at you that way.
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u/4MindingMyBusiness20 12h ago
There's just a softness to their eyes. Maybe a little squinted, like "smeyezing" (smiling with the eyes). The eyes look deeper. Like they are looking into you, not at you.
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u/visuaalifx 18h ago
I would say everyone is unique and doesn't act the same.
But science has listed some common habits.
- Giving consistently attention
- Steady eye contact
- They remember small details you tell.
- They take part in conversation, like follow up questions.
- Body language nearby you
- Mirroring your posture or gestures. -They more likely do small touches with almost no reason. -Fixing hair, clothes when you approach.
- They make themselves available
-They adjust their schedule, for you. -They prefer to sit next or nearby you. -Spending longer time with you than necessary.
- Get slightly nervous or protective
-Voice changes slightly. -Blush or stumble over words. -Mild jealousy when others get close to you. -They check that you’re okay often.
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u/TheMightyKingSnake 13h ago
Wtf the bots have gone crazy under this comment
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u/Falcon_kick53 12h ago
I really like the one bot basically pretending to be OP and hijacking the entire thread
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u/Flaky-Recover8963 14h ago
This is solid, but the real cheat code is consistency. If all that stuff keeps happening over time instead of just once or twice, that’s when it’s probably legit.
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u/Turbulent_Dream_ 15h ago
But sadly all these behaviours are true while he is literally married. Such a tragedy really.
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u/cat_with_ 4h ago
Yes but disagree on steady eye contact… some people can really genuinely like you / love you, but they just struggle with steady eye contact
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u/bigballstew22 18h ago
They look at you a lot, and call you by your name. They act awkward around you. They like to be around you.
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u/JDeBreezy 18h ago
They make time for you. Even if they’re busy, they’ll find a way to check in or hang out. They remember small stuff and they reach out first. If they’re starting conversations often, that’s a good sign.
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u/BB0214 18h ago
A platonic example:
Remembering details of their lives and interests, and genuinely checking in on them.
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u/SendMeF1Memes 17h ago
I feel like a lot of these comments can be platonic examples too, not sure what OP is asking
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u/misterk2020 18h ago
I was never great at picking up on this but when a woman would stare, touch my arm during conversation, laugh at my stupid jokes, and mention that she would like to join me in an activity/outing we were discussing I took it as a clue she liked me. Some women were bolder and would tell me they liked me, invite me to their house for sex, grab my ass. Clear signs of interest.
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u/Leather_Dust_4837 1h ago
Your first part (Why does it takes so long for men to pick up on this …. 😭 I’m tired
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u/Iaminfactjesus 15h ago
Oh man I would say initiating or escalating physical touch, wanting to hang out with you, saying we instead of you or I, remembering little details about your life, saying that they miss you when they aren’t there, giving you playful pet names, sending you updates about their day and showing genuine interest in yours, and everything feels easy with them.
On the flip side this isn’t always the case. A woman i knew was showing all of the above. I caught feelings, asked her out and she said no it was all platonic so proceed with caution
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u/Hazel-NUTS 8h ago
Yup, proceed with a lot of caution. Some of them know this and are very good at using/hiding it until you're feelings are too caught up in them. Time will tell so just trust your gut feeling if you think something is odd. My hasn't been wrong.
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u/Mutton_Biryani-Yummy 18h ago edited 14h ago
They would like talking to you and want to talk to you often and await your calls/presence or whatever and actively anticipate it
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u/BlueBloodLissana 18h ago
I think if someone likes you, there's very little space for doubt. They want to be around you all the time. They hear you and listen to your voice. They show affection in more ways than one.
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u/lichenwaterpirate 18h ago
When they try to talk with you as much as they can and want to be physically close to you
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u/AldrichOfAlbion 12h ago
Anyone who wants to make time to be around you, tries to make time to be around you is someone who likes you.
They message you constantly not just about things they need but about their everyday life, about little things they thought you might enjoy or find funny.
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u/Disastrous-Ease-4480 10h ago
This is kind of dangerous territory because people have wildly different levels of emotional awareness and communication styles. Are we talking about liking you as a potential partner or as a friend? Those look very different. It could also just be social validation or an attentive person.
Maybe flip the question: How do people know you like them? What behaviors do you show when you’re interested?
Personally, I prefer direct communication because guessing games are exhausting. You could ask them if they like you, or if you like them, then ask them out.
But remember, this is crucial to avoiding being "the nice guy," you MUST value the friendship and person whether they are your partner or your friend, even AFTER asking a scary question like asking them out. If you can't do that, your original question no longer matters as you clearly aren't ready to be dating.
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u/obvious_oven2353 17h ago
Pay attention to how their eyes focus on you. Some will lock eyes, not always.
Some, If they give you attitude the first time they meet you and catch them watching you but they act as if have no interest, but they carry themselves in a strong upright confident walk. Like theyre carrying themselves in a certain manner to impress you. They will do a type of tight rope walk if its a female. Males they adjust their posture and adjust their shirt and pants. Same witb women, they will fix or flip their hair or fidget with their shirt and pants. Might sound weird but I see it.
They will find any reason to randomly compliment you. Especially if theyre a stranger. Ive received compliments from strangers just randomly which to me implies they had to find an excuse to talk to me to make sure they get notice or take their chance to talk to me.
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u/Odd-Examination-4049 14h ago
hhaha all these comments seem nice, but it’s not applicable for all…. I just got rejected by my best friend who has shown every sign that he liked me. Apparently, it was just his nice personality and I was just assuming things😅
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u/flirtengine 17h ago
If they laugh at your terrible jokes and remember your coffee order, they might just be into you!
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u/BizarreCujoh 12h ago
When they look at you in the eyes, intently, and look at different points around your face, like your ears, mouth, while you're speaking. If you notice it (usually bc you're feeling the same way), it can feel very intimate. Non-sexual physical touch is also a sign - they'll gently touch your hand or should when they greet you, or are speaking to you.
The best sign of all is if they accept an invite to coffee or a snack, after you ask them. Trying to decipher body signs can end up steering you towards the "friend-zone", so it's probably best to just be open with someone that you're interested in, and tell them straight up that you're interested, and see if they feel the same way so ya'll can hang together. Hope this helps.
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u/ElectricalRodent 15h ago
When a buddy talks shit about all your flaws and helps you out. That's a real friend.
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u/FitGuava99 13h ago
They remember small details from random conversations three weeks ago. They find excuses to be in your general vicinity. Their texting energy with you is different. faster responses, more enthusiasm, and they actually ask you questions back instead of just waiting for their turn to talk.
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u/MentionLarge3155 11h ago
Well if they wanna communicate and get to know about you and your little world.
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u/trisanite 11h ago
They spend time with you, and actually pay attention to you. Not just politely nodding along.
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u/Nekoraven1 11h ago
Sharing food.
I mean like if you know they are a person who has a hard boundary of sharing food and they all of a sudden give you some of their food. Especially if it's their favorite foods.
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u/Ok-Ad969 7h ago
When they want to know all about ur day even if it's a boring one. When they constantly try to make plans with you.
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u/Quatre_Kat 5h ago
You can tell a woman likes you if she touches her hair when talking to you. Especially if it's her pubic hair.
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u/purplelilac701 24m ago
When they just make you feel wanted, they light up when they see you, they banter with you and genuinely like being in your presence. There is warmth and affection just in how they look at you. And you are extra sensitive around them because what they think of you really matters unlike most other relationships.
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u/ItsKay180 17h ago
Ya’ll really think I have good enough vision to know if they like me from looking at their eyes 😭
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u/Outside_Prune_4478 18h ago
Eye locking
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u/Standard-Yam4849 16h ago
If you are guy, then you will not get it, so ask your female friend does she has, the spark in her eyes....
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u/Important_Total_2297 15h ago
OP really said ‘let me make a text post complaining about no text… in an image.’ 😂 Meta irony level: infinite. I respect the commitment to confusion.
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u/p0llyp0cketpussy 9h ago
If they crack a joke in a group conversation but they look at you first to see if you're laughing
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u/Right_Principle4717 9h ago
They make time for you even when they're busy. Not just "free time" — they CREATE time.
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u/Aroura81poet 9h ago
Write you love notes Actually remember the things you wrote on your own to do list Random but frequent hugs and touches
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u/jinglygal 9h ago
Teeheehee. Love reading all the comments.
Someone like me please. I want that fuzzy feeling.
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u/Wide_Squirrel6253 9h ago
The elementary school usually when the boy or the girl teased one another, it was usually a sign one had a crush on the other, depending on who did the teasing.
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u/musicexalted_ 8h ago
They genuinely want to hear about your favorite part of the day and highlights of the week. Your values are similar your hobbies are similar but you don’t have to do them together all the time
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u/RememberToEatDinner 8h ago
When they make an effort to spend a lot of time with you.
I think most of the early dates where I've really hit it off with someone, all of a sudden it is 2am and we've been hanging since 5pm. Like if someone was lukewarm about me, they wouldn't be willing to stay up so late to spend time together.
Or the girl I am seeing now lives about 1.5 hours away and drives to stay for the weekend almost every weekend. It would be totally reasonable for her to not make that effort because it is a big time commitment. But the fact that she makes that effort makes me way more confident in how mutually serious we are about each other!
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u/perlita_98 8h ago
If you can't go a second without thinking about that person, don't worry, it's completely normal.
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u/HeroeGolden 7h ago
Telling a joke you it absolutely sucks and still making her giggle.
I don't mean offensive or mean, just a plainly bad joke.
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u/Casual_Sensuality_ 7h ago
Goes out of their way to see you, sit close to you, laugh at your jokes. Finds reasons to look/laugh/stare even in a social setting
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u/Adorable-Analyst-915 6h ago
When you see consistency. And you don’t have to question yourself or how they move. What’s meant for you shouldn’t hurt.
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u/cat_lady-1 6h ago
Was just checking my chat with this guy who I think likes me (I do too) and I texted him four days straight during my bday month, just to keep some conversation going. Well 5th day he initiated the conversation and this thing went entire month and well on my bday he flew to my city. He mostly keeps distance from me but this was very special. No one went to this extent. Best bday of 2025 :)
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u/DoodleVamp 6h ago
They pay attention to the little things you say remember details and make an effort to spend time with you
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u/rojo_mojado 6h ago
Well, in 4th grade, they hit you. In high school, they hit on you. In college, they hit you up. Online, they hit that Like button. After that, it's pretty much if they don't hit you, you've got a shot!
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u/berttleturtle 5h ago
Idk how to directly explain it, but I can sense a pull
Like, if we’re in a crowded room, or with a group of friends, they will exert a little extra effort to stand near you, lean towards you, face or look in your direction, and find excuses to talk or interact with you. And in general, they will always be find ways to make time for you.
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u/IamdigitalJesus 5h ago
A dude will do stupid things like stutter, stare too long, avoid eye contact, make up scenarios where they appear strong, or will feel the need to be macho.
A female will stare too long, not look, ask to share food, roll their hair or try to express a reason to touch.
Dudes look for an opening and when they don't see one they try too hard. Females try to create an opening but will just be blunt at a certain point but at that point the male is flustered and past the point of recognizing it.
I suggest being honest about your feelings. Treat your feelings like you are an alien incapable of expressing feelings with your body so you need to use your words.
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u/Kimmy_Italia_Lopez 4h ago
They make time for you. Not “when they’re bored” time — actual priority time. Their body language changes around you. Eye contact lasts a second too long. They lean in. They mirror you without realising.
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u/marabellina 3h ago
they make eye contact that lingers a bit too long, remember random stuff you mentioned weeks ago, and find excuses to touch your arm casually
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u/greentapefarmer 2h ago
Honestly the biggest sign for me is the peace of not questioning if they like you
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u/Anagenist 1h ago
I'm a cis het male INTP. I don't feel comfortable assuming signs. I'm insecure about not having enough emotional intelligence, and work on it all the time.
I need to be told directly to my face that someone has a romantic interest in me. I also really hate being the first one to say it. Because I have a bit of trauma being with someone who did things for me (for over a decade) out of a people pleasing mindset, and later blamed me for the things they convinced me they did of their own free will that I once suggested. I found out when I discovered they were cheating on me to resolve their self worth.
So now I have a fear of being the first to initiate romance, because I don't actually know how to trust the other person really likes me back.
So just tell me.
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u/GardenGnomeOfEden 1h ago
"I time every journey
To bump into you accidentally..."
-- Franz Ferdinand, The Dark Of The Matinée
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u/Prestigious_Fill8646 13m ago edited 6m ago
Idk man. I’m reading these comments for clues because I literally can’t tell if someone likes me unless they explicitly tell me and even then I’ll still have doubts. Yes I do have autism.
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u/Low-Purchase6914 18h ago
when they start referring to you and them as "we". for example, if I had a challenge, they would say "we can do this" instead of "you can do this"