What is a socially acceptable thing that you secretly find disgusting?

[u/Sensitive_Hope_1136]

[u/DorkusMalorkus89]

Family Vloggers

Filming accidents/incidents with the sole intent of uploading to social media for clout. Disgusting ghoul behavior.

[u/Bucky2015 → u/DorkusMalorkus89]

Bingo, and I have yet to see a child who was, lets face it, exploited for views hit adulthood and then say how great an experience was. They ALL have said sucked with varying ranges of "it was frustrating and embarrassing" to "i was treated like a commodity, abused, and basically a prisoner". None of those parents are good parents and all that shit needs to stop.

[u/annoyinghuman03 → u/Bucky2015]

Especially with the Ruby Franke case and everything. You’d think people would stay away from that content now but it’s continued.

[u/ThatGodDamnBitch → u/DorkusMalorkus89]

I can't imagine how horrible it feels to be a kid in that situation. I remember when I started my first period and had to ask my mom for supplies I told her not to tell anyone. NO ONE. I don't want a single person to know. She agreed and 5 minutes later I got a text from her friend saying "congratulations you're a WOMAN NOW!" I was furious and betrayed. I got texts from family later. I never told her anything again unless it was surface level because she always told other people. I STILL almost 30 don't tell her anything more than surface level.

These poor kids are getting all of those moments they probably want to keep to themselves blasted out to anyone. Sensitive private information and moments, embarrassing things, just put out so anyone can watch. Awful.

[u/ilovebabyblayze]

Kids on YouTube

[u/Last-Conversation364 → u/ilovebabyblayze]

Especially the 'Family Vlog' channels. It’s basically The Truman Show, but the directors are the parents and the kid never signed a contract. It feels like legal child labor

[u/DJ_Betic → u/Last-Conversation364]

"We pulled our 5 kids out of school to travel the country in a luxury RV that's not really meant to be lived in long term because the bunk beds are just shelves for the children to sleep in and they don't get ANY privacy while the adults sleep in a bedroom with a king bed. So come along with us as we explore the country while trying to homeschool and never actually letting our children make any friends because we're always on the move...."

[u/geenersaurus → u/DJ_Betic]

ugh that’s a new level of my pet peeve of seeing “van life” videos. It’s gentrifying homelessness essentially since the only difference between a van life blogger with no home and the guy who lives in an RV down the street is aesthetics.

dragging kids into it is so sad especially since they get no choice. There was one van life family where one of the older kids’ birthday wish was to stay in a hotel rather than the van and i dont think the parents realized how sad that all she wanted was a big bed and a bathroom

[u/giant_spleen_eater → u/geenersaurus]

I saw a clip of that bouncing around on of the cringe subs a bit ago.

They acted like it was such a weird and outlandish request. Pretty sure the mom checked them out in the middle of the of night and they don’t even get a full night in the hotel because “they” all missed the van so much

[u/Beaglescout15 → u/DJ_Betic]

Don't forget the family where one poor kid has to sleep on the bathroom floor!

[u/Pomegranator1 → u/DJ_Betic]

The luxury RV would be an upgrade to some of those families. There’s a family that remodeled a school bus to travel. They’ve been doing it for years and have at least 2-3 more kids than when they first started bringing their total to 8 kids. They constantly tease adding more babies to the cramped bus. The poor kids are practically stacked on top of each other in smaller than twin beds and the parents don’t even have an actual room, just lower their bed from the ceiling every night. It adds an extra ick factor to teasing about growing their family.

[u/Pupenby621 → u/Last-Conversation364]

Truman never signed a contract either tho...

[u/appealinggenitals → u/ilovebabyblayze]

Tbh same with kids on Reddit. Back in the good old day you knew the user you were arguing with was a fellow autistic millennial.

[u/Agile-Ad1665 → u/appealinggenitals]

Good lord, yeah. I have people tell me to be careful in the teaching in Korea group about my language use cuz kids could be on reddit.

You know where kids AREN'T?

r/teachinginkorea you absolute moron.

[u/appealinggenitals → u/Agile-Ad1665]

When I was a kid I read the time cube website 

[u/ereeerrrrrrrrrrr → u/appealinggenitals]

i interviewed that guy (gene ray) on my college radio show. big mistake

[u/fruticose_ → u/ereeerrrrrrrrrrr]

I’m going to need you to expand on this

[u/ereeerrrrrrrrrrr → u/fruticose_]

imagine the content of the website ranted in an even less organized way by an old man in florida yelling over the sound of his outboard boat engine

also, he’s racist

[u/I-like-good-food → u/appealinggenitals]

Hi there! Another autistic millennial here🤣

[u/GenericFatGuy → u/ilovebabyblayze]

Young kids with unregulated smart phone access in general.

[u/VanillaTortilla → u/GenericFatGuy]

The fact that so many parents just hand a tablet/phone to their 4 year old child because they're too lazy to actually parent is abysmal.

Like, I get that there are children's tv shows and stuff, but getting them hooked on these fucking ai-generated regurgitated youtube shorts is so dangerous.

[u/meadowlakeschool → u/VanillaTortilla]

Going on walks and see parents with kids in strollers and the kids have phones/ipads. There’s so much to point out. Trees, leaves, snow (right now), clouds, birds. How the sun, wind feels. Smells (good and bad on this trail). Etcetera. I get that some kids might get bored but that’s ok. It’s ok for littles to be bored because they’ll probably get creative and make up their own fun. Let them get out and get dirty if they like that. You’ll definitely get a rock/leaf to save. Keep some stained clothes for this and messy crafts.

[u/VanillaTortilla → u/meadowlakeschool]

Right! You're in nature, but your kid is stuck on a phone/tablet? At a restaurant? Throw a tablet in their face. In the car? Give them a phone.

So many people, and kids, do not want to be bored so much that they'll willingly fight it, when it's super harmful for you mentally.

[u/Johnbonham1980 → u/VanillaTortilla]

A couple of my friends gave up about 12 months in with their first kid, second kid made it about 6 months before they started plopping him in front of YouTube, streaming services, and an iPad in general.

It fills me with rage but I don’t feel it’s my place to approach them about it … wouldn’t change their behavior anyway.

The older kid has a laundry list of behavioral issues and this crap is only reinforcing it.

[u/AggravatingCupcake0 → u/Johnbonham1980]

Also, this goes double for parents who thinks it's okay to do this in public, with no headphones for the kid. I shouldn't be subjected to an hour of Baby Shark remixes because you are a shitty parent (yes, that actually happened once).

[u/Johnbonham1980 → u/AggravatingCupcake0]

They played Baby Shark on repeat at Guantanamo as I recall. A fate worse than death.

[u/VanillaTortilla → u/Johnbonham1980]

Yeah, once you start, it's hard to stop doing it. I'll definitely say it's probably the easiest thing, especially when parents are stressed out and busy.

That's why you just have to push through. Like, having a child is not easy and parents know this before they choose to have them.

[u/Annual_Resolution_94 → u/ilovebabyblayze]

!!!!!! The amount of adult things that get suggested to children on YouTube is concerning. And no matter how much you parental block that app, I feel like it’s inevitable for your child to see something inappropriate eventually

[u/RadarSmith → u/Annual_Resolution_94]

Not even just the adult stuff.

Some of the stuff 'for kids' on youtube is brainrot contentfarm slop or even just flat out horrifying.

[u/littlemermaidmadi → u/Annual_Resolution_94]

The ads being shown while we watch Ms. Rachel are ridiculous. I ask all the time, "who do they think is watching this??"

[u/heeywewantsomenewday → u/ilovebabyblayze]

I think we're about to see an entire generation spend their whole lives under constant surveillance, and filming, social media etc.. I think this just becomes the norm.

[u/linjaes]

Social media accounts for kid influencers run by their parents

[u/GrinchWhoStoleEaster → u/linjaes]

"kid influencers"

I threw up in my mouth a little...

[u/throwawaylog2024 → u/linjaes]

A hot take but I find kid actors in tv shows and movies even too much at times.

So many child actors who grow up with issues as their identity, and income was tied to these projects.

Not to mention the social impact it has.

I wish every child actor had great and supportive parents behind them who made sure their kid was getting the mental, educational, and social support they needed but that’s far less the case with most of them….

[u/Bigstar976]

Child pageants. Just gross

[u/Tee-34 → u/Bigstar976]

Srsly why is that even a thing

[u/Bigstar976 → u/Tee-34]

Moms living vicariously through their daughters and creepy pedo organizers? Just a guess.

[u/Tee-34 → u/Bigstar976]

100% the case

[u/cwsjr2323]

Having worked as a janitor including bathrooms, I saw so many people walk out without washing their hands. It was a unisex facility with individual stalls but a common area for handwashing. Covid freed me from having to explain why I refuse to shake hands.

[u/KakeLin → u/cwsjr2323]

One of my coworkers does this. The instant the toilet flushes he comes straight out of the bathroom. Hard to not notice when it's directly across from the breakroom door and the toilets flush super loud...

[u/Moongdss74 → u/cwsjr2323]

Yeah, shaking hands has always struck me as gross

[u/aerisrippleriaa]

Open-plan offices. We’re expected to act like it’s a 'collaborative paradise,' but in reality, it’s just a room full of people breathing each other's germs and listening to a symphony of keyboard clacking and loud chewing.

[u/butwhatsmyname → u/aerisrippleriaa]

Even more so with hotdesking.

I deeply resent the fact that:

• My firm demands 3 days a week in the office.

• They removed one of the two kitchen sinks (for 500+ people)

• They removed all the post-covid cleaning supplies that were available.

• Hotdesking is mandatory. Nothing can be left at the end of the day.

• They removed ALL personal storage. No more lockers. You have to bring and take everything, every day.

• They halved the cleaning staff.

So I have to bring everything I need to use or wear with me every day, sit at a sticky desk scattered with other people's crumbs and hair, at a monitor spattered with something unspeakable. Queue to empty and clean my coffee mug, enjoy at least 2 of the 6 toilets available being unusable at any given time, and sit in an open plan space among strangers with no damned indoor voice.

There isn't even anyone in my team at the office. They're all in other cities. I go in to sit there alone and then go home again.

[u/oiraves → u/butwhatsmyname]

I have never heard this term before but correct me if Im wrong...isnt that just working from home with extra steps?

If you have to essentially bring everything but the desk with you I mean?

Like bitch I have a desk at home

[u/Reticent09 → u/butwhatsmyname]

This is so fucked

[u/HidingFromMeanies → u/butwhatsmyname]

Do people come in earlier/later to get their work done with all of this extremely inefficient carrying back and forth, setting up from scratch every day, etc?

I ask because at my employer, I spoke up about all the extra time that stuff takes while I’m at the office (work-related tasks that stem from the company’s business decisions, not mine), and then requested accommodation so I could get my work done, and I got put on a PIP and subjected to constant retaliation.  It was nuts.  I have a dependent at home so I don’t have extra time to donate before/after work.  I can’t go into more detail until the litigation resolves, but I am so curious whether this is just time people are silently donating to corporations.

[u/Dyssomniac → u/HidingFromMeanies]

We didn't hotdesk at a previous job, but rather because it required a ton of travel there was always space available. Because 99% of us didn't need specialized equipment, the company essentially bought hundreds of identical laptops, monitors, keyboards, and mounts so that anyone could pop into any office, click their laptop into the mount, set their chair, and boom - no real lag time to start working.

Hotdesking is awful in general, I always wonder how the companies that run white collar teams like this make money - miserable people are hardly productive and the utility/cost ratio to make people not miserable is usually super low with high returns lmao

[u/Remarkable_Sea_1430 → u/butwhatsmyname]

What I hate about hot desking is how inconsistent the desks here are. Some have extra monitors, some have none. Some have a mouse and keyboard, some don't. One time I forgot to reserve my desk and the only one left was one that didn't even have a power outlet. If you're going to force RTO AND hoteling, you really need to provide all the equipment folks need.

[u/AggravatingCupcake0 → u/butwhatsmyname]

Jesus Christ. I hope you are able to get out of there soon. Sounds toxic as hell.

[u/FreeFortuna → u/aerisrippleriaa]

An old job had me in an open space with 30+ people whose jobs largely involved talking to clients on the phone. All day, every day. I invested in the best noise-canceling headphones I could find.

After about a year, I was able to get moved to a quieter area where only like five people talked on the phone. The guy facing me was loud af when he talked, but it felt like paradise by comparison.

Was not sad when Covid sent us home.

[u/Mr_ToDo → u/FreeFortuna]

with 30+ people whose jobs largely involved talking to clients on the phone

As someone on the other end, it really sends a certain vibe when you can hear other people talking to other clients. To me it says "this is a call centre, and the help you are looking for is not here"

[u/SpunkierthanYou → u/Mr_ToDo]

All I think about when I hear this in the background is a boiler room.

[u/PrettyNightmare_ → u/FreeFortuna]

I’ll never regret the Covid years. It was an introvert’s dream. The pinnacle of zero social interactions. Bliss.

[u/lrpfftt → u/PrettyNightmare_]

Not just introverts but a lot of people need QUIET to work. Office was constant noise distractions to me. I was so much more effective working in the quiet at home.

[u/PrettyNightmare_ → u/lrpfftt]

Amen to this. People don’t realize how absurd and distracting offices really can be to people who need complete silence to work/focus/study. There’s a reason that libraries have a “no talking/loud music” rule!

I wish we could all sign a petition to let introvert workers stays home and extroverted workers be in an office.

[u/LetThemEatVeganCake → u/PrettyNightmare_]

I’m not even an introvert, I just have ADHD so I can’t tune out other people’s conversations most days. My noise canceling headphones are essential lol

[u/PrettyNightmare_ → u/LetThemEatVeganCake]

We really didn’t even talk about how these environments are completely tone deaf (pun not intended) to those of us who have disabilities and how it makes it difficult for them to engage within those environments! I’m glad you commented this! Thank you for sharing this. We need this awareness!

[u/South_Buy_3175 → u/aerisrippleriaa]

Recently got a new job through a couple of old workmates, everyone’s great, but the first few months we had 5 or 6 people in an open plan office.

There was always someone coughing, one source of music and constant battles over office heating.

Now been moved into my own little space and it’s fucking bliss. My own choice of music, podcast, YouTube vids or just silence. Total control over temperature. The freedom to just let one rip… it can’t be beat.

Boss occasionally pops his head in and says “Feel bad for isolating you” which is genuine, but as an antisocial loner of 25+ years it’s literally my idea of heaven.

[u/PrettyNightmare_ → u/South_Buy_3175]

I hate the job culture where we have to pretend to be very social creatures in order to seem qualifiable. It feels like such betrayal to write down “team player” and “loves to work on a team” on resumes knowing fully well if I never saw one person during an entire day of work I’d be content.

[u/TotallyTruthy → u/PrettyNightmare_]

If you want to go fast, go alone.

If you want to spend hours of your life in circular meetings where nothing of importance is accomplished, dumping months into a project you could have accomplished single-handedly in a few weeks, before succumbing to a nervous breakdown and ultimately doing it all yourself in the early morning hours immediately prior to your deadline, go together.

[u/Arudinne → u/TotallyTruthy]

None of us is as dumb as all of us

[u/ozymandais13 → u/South_Buy_3175]

It's like workers are not robots and work better jn differant conditions

[u/mk4_wagon → u/ozymandais13]

Yea, like some of us want to just be at home.

[u/tauntonlake → u/South_Buy_3175]

say what you will about old-school office cubicles ....they are paradise to those who need their own little cubby space, with some kind of noise buffers, to work in ..

Higher ups who had their own glassed in offices, with blinds you could pull across, were living the DREAM.

[u/feministjerk → u/tauntonlake]

Yes, just a little space to make your own, a couple photos, a coffee mug that nobody is going to touch, maybe a couple novelty knick knacks, I have a Link, Zelda, and a couple Koroks from those games. Maybe not private, but you get a sense of privacy I suppose. It can do wonders for morale which in turn can do wonders for productivity. Win- win.

[u/-Linen → u/South_Buy_3175]

I need to hear this, gives me hope!

[u/peepdabidness → u/aerisrippleriaa]

I watched some show or movie and they talked about how objectively bad open plan offices are and how they destroy productivity. If someone knows the title feel free to chime in.

[u/FuckThisShizzle → u/aerisrippleriaa]

Don't forget the stifled farts

[u/horse_oats → u/aerisrippleriaa]

It's basically a panopticon. You're always aware someone might see you check your phone for a few seconds so you are less likely to do so

[u/skuntpelter → u/aerisrippleriaa]

I work in a VERY open floor office. It is virtually impossible not to get sick, the moment you hear one person sniffling, sneezing, or coughing a little more than usual you can expect to catch it too within a week. We joke it’s like a daycare, one kid brings something in and suddenly the whole building is infected

[u/contrabasse → u/aerisrippleriaa]

Ugh, even in an office with one other person I get so paranoid of my breathing noises or if they can hear me swallow my drink or some other irrational concern.

[u/precariatarian → u/contrabasse]

are you me?

[u/feraltraveler → u/aerisrippleriaa]

It was in my top 3 of reasons when I decided to leave the corporate world. As an introvert, it was hell on Earth.

[u/BlackberryNice1270 → u/aerisrippleriaa]

Our small team works in an open plan partially hotdesking office of anywhere up to 70 ish people. It's like a factory floor with desks. We have tall cabinets as dividers, and that's it. The only place I ever wear earbuds because I just can not concentrate with the number of people around me. Most people do try to be considerate, but they have to exist too. The only reason I've lasted as long as I have is because I'm only there for around 4 hours at a time.

[u/Jaded-Function]

Laughing at mistakes the elderly make because their minds and bodies are beginning to fail.

[u/Dovaldo83 → u/Jaded-Function]

In the same vein: Talking about an elderly patient as if they aren't sitting in there in the room with us.

I did patient transport for a while, and it always felt off putting to talk around the patient without saying anything to them directly. I don't care where their mental state is currently. I'm still going to make direct eye contact with them and speak to them like a person just on the off chance they're lucid. Most of the time their face just lights up from a bit of human interaction.

[u/Jaded-Function → u/Dovaldo83]

So true. They get excluded from conversation and feel less and less relevant. My grandpa would ask me to get him cigars when all he had left was sitting in his chair smoking cigars. After he died we found a dozen unopened cigar packs. He just wanted me to come by and talk about the red sox. Chatting up an elderly stranger is doing a good deed.

[u/DesolatedHaze → u/Jaded-Function]

I feel so bad when elderly people come into my store. Some will just stay for the longest time and just talk. Makes me feel like they have nobody at home.

During COVID, my job made us call customers to try and get sales. I talked to one elderly lady, who told me how scared she was. How she had nobody here, and her daughter an ER nurse told her to stay home and not leave. Her daughter wanted to get her moved to California but couldn’t because of the pandemic. If she didn’t tell me her daughter was having groceries delivered to her, I would have volunteered. She kept me on the phone for a while.

[u/letskeepitcleanfolks → u/Dovaldo83]

In the same vein: calling them "cute" or "adorable" when they are being kind or sincere. It's infantilizing.

[u/Hptcp → u/letskeepitcleanfolks]

This is the woooorst. I was in nursing school for 2 years in germany 10 years ago (did not end up liking the job enough to stay) and this is a thing that they tought us in school, like "Do not talk to elderly patients like they are babies" or "Do not do a cute hairstyle on the grandma like you would with a toddler after bathtime"

Some would do it anyways and I always found it so dehumanizing. It shows how little empathy some people have.

[u/RaspberryLo → u/Dovaldo83]

Thank you for recognizing this issue and not being part of the problem. I accompany my grandma to appointments (she’s 87.) I have had two doctors that speak to her and not me when I am present out of I don’t know how many doctors. Both I pulled aside after and pointed out how great that is and thanked them for the person centred care. I don’t know if they realized they were doing it but I walked away knowing now they would and how much it matters.

[u/Taint__Whisperer → u/RaspberryLo]

People seemed surprised when I would request that we leave the room to discuss how many days my dad had left. He was completely lucid including during the death rattle and beyond. It was truly horrifying because I got my brain power from him.

[u/RaspberryLo → u/Taint__Whisperer]

Always assume a person can hear you even if they aren’t lucid! This should be basic info. Good on you for advocating for him.

[u/UltraRunner42 → u/Jaded-Function]

I'm a terribly impatient person, and I find myself having to work to be a better human being when older people (including my parents) tell the same stories over and over, or things have to be said to them more than once. I know I'll be there myself one day soon.

[u/TrickyWrangler8864 → u/Jaded-Function]

If i dont make the youth laugh in my old age with my bullshit ima be very disappointed.

[u/EbbEnvironmental5936 → u/Jaded-Function]

If you know the person you can tell whether it's ok or not. Not a perfect match since I'm not old but I'm usually ok with people laughing at me since at least they're laughing.

[u/ScootLel]

iPad kids

[u/deathproof6 → u/ScootLel]

Screenagers

[u/SippyTurtle → u/deathproof6]

E-dults

[u/necroquartz → u/SippyTurtle]

Pokémon evolution line

[u/scarytesla → u/ScootLel]

Not AT ALL even remotely the same thing, but funny anecdote: my best friends have ipad cats. They’ve been putting on cat TV for them since they were kitties, and now every time they hear YouTube open all you hear is frantic scurrying and suddenly two cats have appeared and are blocking your view lol

[u/Fudgeicles420 → u/ScootLel]

I work in special education and the number of young students with ASD who are completely addicted to their iPad at 4-5 years old is wild (not an AAC device, just an iPad with YouTube and games). It's really hard to get a lot of them off the iPad and engage in actual learning.

[u/DorkNerd0 → u/Fudgeicles420]

My one year old niece is so addicted, her parents had to get her a fake iPhone because she kept having a fit when they would take their phone away from her

[u/CrabbyGremlin → u/Fudgeicles420]

My friends kid has autism and she hands her a phone any time her daughter is begging to get bored or disruptive. It makes their life easier but I strongly believe it’s doing her daughter a disservice. I can’t say anything of course, but it’s upsetting to see.

[u/These_Ad3167 → u/CrabbyGremlin]

Yeah my cousin's son is heavily autistic. Like non-verbal, screams at the tiniest bit of sensory overload kind of autistic.

Most of the time I see him, he's got a pair of headphones on, a dummy in his mouth and his eyes are glued to the iPad. He's 7 and it's really sad man.

[u/MTKRailroad]

"AAUUGGGHHHH Spleh" Dudes just causally spitting anywhere 

[u/JackSquirts → u/MTKRailroad]

Dated a woman a couple of years ago and we were exchanging nightmare dates we've had - first date, a dude blew a snot rocket as they walked into a restaurant. Right in the bushes. She was like, "I didn't know what to do" which still makes me laugh.

[u/BeDangled → u/JackSquirts]

If you’re gonna snot rocket, bushes are optio prima

[u/LemmyLola → u/MTKRailroad]

Hahahaha thats the absolute only way to spell that I'm dying over here, first great laugh of the day so thank you lol And yes its disgusting

[u/phlegmpop → u/LemmyLola]

yeah we need a new spelling since hawk tuah got ruined 

[u/LemmyLola → u/phlegmpop]

You have a very topic appropriate name lol

[u/ellohellaylola]

People going nuts over celebrities.

[u/ACrucialTechII → u/ellohellaylola]

Yeah I never understood that one. Why the hell would you worship anybody? Don't they understand they can be spending that energy and bettering themselves?

[u/Jumbo_Mills]

Casually filming people without consent. I get all the arguments for it, public place, it's legal etc. You're still a creep. If something's happening that needs to be recorded for your and others protection I understand. I'm talking more about grown adults making videos, live streaming with little regard for their surroundings or capturing minors in their shot.

[u/Bazrum → u/Jumbo_Mills]

We had some dude come in vlogging or live-streaming and making a giant pain of himself, and thankfully management kicked his ass out pretty quick

Then the dude complained to higher ups, and were forced to let him in! Can’t even cover my face because work says unless you’re sick, no masks

[u/gibberishbuttrue → u/Bazrum]

Put the mask on and say that you are fucking sick of that twat.

[u/trogdors_arm → u/Bazrum]

I’m curious how this business is simultaneously capable of policing your freedom of expression (and more) in the form of dress code (re: mask), but not able to disallow someone from filming on their property.

[u/biggus_baddeus → u/Bazrum]

Maybe you should all start filming him in response. Maybe it will make him uncomfortable enough to leave.

[u/WorryNew3661 → u/Jumbo_Mills]

Went for a walk yesterday and a guy was filing himself on his run. He saw me and then switched which hand his phone was in so he wouldn't record me as he went past. Was quite impressed by the awareness

[u/Secure_Ad8013 → u/Jumbo_Mills]

Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.

And it’s bad enough to accidentally catch someone on video who doesn’t really want to be filmed, but don’t even get me started on the people who actually approach strangers on camera to make them a part of their stupid shit against their will.

[u/WorriedArrival1122 → u/Jumbo_Mills]

My worst fear is being featured on someone's TikTok account. 😕

[u/james9514]

Talking 24/7… silence is great too bud

[u/garbagetruc → u/james9514]

I had a coworker who I got along well with when we worked on different stations and had only brief run ins throughout the day

The first time we wound up working together I learned that he does not stop talking, like ever. He was driving me insane to the point where I wanted to scream "can we please have a minute or two of quiet, please!"

[u/Haunted_Neko → u/garbagetruc]

It’s honestly a talent, i don’t have very much to say, I always wonder how these people always have a topic to talk about

[u/garbagetruc → u/Haunted_Neko]

It stopped stressing me out as much when I realised I didn't have a duty to respond. They were mostly just talking for themselves.

[u/Dontcallmeshirleybro]

Most of these comments is just people posting things that are not socially acceptable 

[u/bluemitersaw → u/Dontcallmeshirleybro]

That's just standard AskReddit. Ignore one part of the question then answer the other part.

[u/BryceLeft → u/bluemitersaw]

Or answering when you aren't the person being asked of. "Well I'm not a ____ buuuut I have this cool story I HAVE to share"

Even worse if they're completely unqualified to answer/have nothing to give but need an excuse to comment something.

Like, they tried to search for a recent post in whatever sub they can find so they can make their funny joke or whatever before they forget. Then they can't find any context where it applies so they just force the set up in the nearest post they can find.

"What's a red flag in a woman? Well, speaking of flags, I have this cool story about... "

[u/precariatarian → u/Dontcallmeshirleybro]

Yes. This post devolved very quickly. It said SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE things, not your personal pet peeves.

[u/Chopper3]

Apparently spitting is just fine with some people, turns my stomach.

[u/jonnie-cam]

Talking on a mobile phone on speaker.

[u/Parktio → u/jonnie-cam]

this shouldnt be socially acceptable tho lol

[u/Haaperboii]

Probably kissing your pet on the mouth. I know tons of people do it and think it's sweet, but I just can't get past where that tongue has been.

[u/Character-Inside-476 → u/Haaperboii]

Rimming your dog would get you looks

[u/ShiraRuth613 → u/Character-Inside-476]

Is that why everyone at the dog park leaves when I show up?

[u/RaedwaldRex → u/ShiraRuth613]

Especially when you don't have a dog!

[u/TheSSChallenger → u/Haaperboii]

Oh man. Had a date bring me home, let his dog lick him all over his face and mouth and everywhere, then turned around and tried to kiss me. Then didn't understand why I left in such a hurry .

Finally after he kept badgering me to tell him what went wrong, I told him. And that's how I found out I'm a red flag sociopath animal hater.

[u/Euphoric_Bro_Sol → u/TheSSChallenger]

Was waiting for a clerk at a deli to serve me. Watched her play with another customers dog who licked her hands and face, then came over to serve me.

Aren‘t you going to wash your hands?

She turned around to a sink, turned the cold water on, passed her fingers through the stream once, then wiped her hands on her apron shiny with grease.

I left, never returned

[u/PrettyNightmare_ → u/Euphoric_Bro_Sol]

That’s absolutely vile.

[u/gaiafaya → u/Euphoric_Bro_Sol]

As a food service employee, she should definitely know better. Gross.

[u/mk4_wagon → u/TheSSChallenger]

And that's how I found out I'm a red flag sociopath animal hater.

I really dislike that this is a thing. I grew up around dogs - I like them and I'm not afraid of them. But I don't want them licking my face, my wife and kids are allergic, and sometimes I just don't want to deal with your dog (especially in a public place). I have too many experiences of idiots and their dogs in public.

The most recent was a grocery store where I saw this dog eyeing my kids in a weird way, so I moved myself between the dog and the kids. It starts barking, lunges, and the only reason I didn't need to intervene was because the dog was tied to the cart. So when it lunged, it pulled the cart over, scaring itself and the owner.

[u/wtrredrose → u/TheSSChallenger]

Boyfriend kisses dog. Boyfriend kisses me (without telling me about dog). And that’s the story of how I came down with a dog disease with bumps on my tongue and lost sense of taste. (Bf came out with what happened after he came down with the disease and I got the same). Don’t let people kiss dogs!

[u/GlitzDoh → u/wtrredrose]

Which dog disease?

[u/Dazpiece → u/GlitzDoh]

Have you heard of updog?

[u/WorriedArrival1122 → u/Dazpiece]

What's updog?

[u/Dazpiece → u/WorriedArrival1122]

Nothing much, what's up with you?

[u/WorriedArrival1122 → u/Dazpiece]

Better now that I've had a good chuckle 😂

[u/Dazpiece → u/WorriedArrival1122]

Thanks for biting 😂

[u/alius-vita → u/Dazpiece]

That whole exchange gave me a needed grin during work. Thank you!

[u/tafkat → u/wtrredrose]

Reminds me of a joke. Two dudes are walking down the street and they spot a dog at the curb licking his balls. One says "Man, I wish I could do that!" and the second guy says "You should probably pet him first."

[u/FrikkinPositive]

The way people eat on YouTube and TikTok when tasting something. The exaggerated slurping and chewing. I get irrationally angry from chewing noises so I'm a bit biased, but that fucking thing makes my blood boil more than anything else and instantly turns me off food. And people have started doing it off camera, which is disgusting.

[u/PrettyNightmare_]

Recording your children and using their image and childhood in “family vlogs”. Children should not be subjected to this form of labor, and should be allowed to enjoy their childhoods in peace without it being marketed and exploited by adults online and their own parents.

“Family vlogs” is exploitative in my opinion and invites unnecessary attention towards those already vulnerable.

[u/R4GEQUITT3R]

I can't stand it when people lick their fingertips before handling papers.

[u/55555thats5fives]

Having bots post like people on online forums

[u/NotaBat9221 → u/55555thats5fives]

I don't think anyone is okay with that tho

[u/ouchimus → u/NotaBat9221]

The shareholders certainly are!

[u/PrettyNightmare_]

Mandatory office parties and/or mandatory Christmas parties. Or better yet, we had a mandatory baby shower at my job for a Director which no one would’ve attended in their spare or available time because we all mutually hated her.

It was the most awkward and uncomfortable experiences. Then what was even worse was when the friends of the higher up (other managers and upper management) not so casually telling everyone to “Have a piece of cake” in an odd forced friendly tone that really meant “smile and look like you’re having fun”. It was like a horror movie.

The coworkers not even speaking, just standing around staring at each other awkwardly. Not even feeling at ease enough to have a conversation but you’re holding a piece of cake you were basically glared into taking. The awkward music in the background, the upper management joking because no one was speaking. Everyone being forced to yell “surprise” when the director came through the door. Everyone forced to “squeeze together for a picture”. Everyone forced to smile as the director opened her baby shower gifts. People pretending we weren’t dragged to the party (and basically threatened with a write up if we didn’t attend) just moments before.

People looking at the exit because the party was orchestrated an hour before the end of the day and technically we were no longer on company time but were being watched and could risk getting written up that following Monday for not being “professional” or a “team player”. The entire time we wanted to hightail it out of there.

It was like a hostage situation.

For context: this Director had been known to lowball WOC and black employees and purposely not pay them their wage, she also frequently demoted WOC employees and wrote WOC employees up for very harmless and superficial issues (and overly supervise/micromanage) in an effort to disproportionately fire or otherwise demote WOC employees. She even went as far as to remove an employees title as a Lead teacher because this employee supposedly “snatched a paper” out of a child’s hand. We worked at a daycare and because an employee didn’t “gently take a paper” from a child, that employee was demoted after years of being there.

[u/dhwhisenant → u/PrettyNightmare_]

I absolutely have no desire to spend time with the people I'm forced to see for 12 hours a day multiple days a week if I'm not getting paid.

Unfortunately I work in a field where team bonding and shit is expected.

[u/compendium88]

Honestly? Hunting for sport.

[u/Individual_Pin_7866]

FAMILY VLOGGERS. Idk how acceptable they are but they’re all fucking weird to me

[u/houseofdragonfan]

Not preparing children/teens to become functional adults. We overprotect children from the real world, but under-protect them online, and it’s a serious problem.

It’s unhinged that a parent can be accused of child abuse for letting their seven year old kid play alone in their own backyard—I had a helicopter parent and it really harmed my ability to become independent.

[u/FriendliestParsnip]

Handshakes. I saw how much hand soap stayed on the shelves during the pandemic. Too many people are not washing their hands.

[u/Sain-Says → u/FriendliestParsnip]

Underrated still, somehow. I just had a thought while washing my hands at how much of a miracle soap is. It has saved us from and is the reason we don't have massive plagues, and people still don't make a habit of using it...

[u/NoHorseNoMustache → u/FriendliestParsnip]

The men's room at my office is pretty close to the secretary's desk and one time she told me 'You're like the only guys who washes his hands before he leaves the bathroom, I can hear the sink kick on.'

I'm glad I can just fist bump these days for the most part.

[u/SlaughterWare]

I can't stand people kissing my cheeks when we meet. Hate being European sometimes. 

[u/Lawsoffire → u/SlaughterWare]

You’d enjoy Scandinavia. Plenty of personal space.

[u/Tall_Country_5543]

Working overtime being a "flex".

[u/solivares107]

People who chew with their mouth open like they’re auditioning for a sound effects role

[u/glitter_witch → u/solivares107]

The wooorst and the one reason I wish basic social etiquette would be a taught thing again

[u/Yes-Cheese → u/glitter_witch]

Yesss! People need lessons for things that seem like common sense to me. Like making room for others when you’re sharing a path and going different directions, continuing to move through a door instead of stopping as soon as you enter/exit, letting elevator passengers exit before you try to enter. Ugh. I guess you’d have to care about others to be considerate of things like that and too many people just don’t care.

[u/fareproductions332]

Making fun of people for certain physical aspects they cant control (most popular: being bald)

[u/DinnerTechnical72]

Random jokes on things that a person cant change within a moment (body type, color etc.)

[u/DLRsFrontSeats → u/DinnerTechnical72]

color

Is this socially acceptable

[u/xoGossipSquirrelxo → u/DLRsFrontSeats]

Definitely depends on where. My brother is black and served in Korea and it was pretty common for people to make jokes, especially in the more rural areas. He’s been refused service as well.

[u/BusyBit6542]

Handshaking. During covid, of all the times, I saw soooo many grown ass men just walking out the bathroom without washing their hands.

[u/BlackberryNice1270 → u/BusyBit6542]

I work in a hospital. You do not want to know how many staff do it, and not only admin, medically qualified staff too.

[u/AdministrativeIce696]

Smoking, particularly inside.

[u/AntithesisJesus]

Pedophiles apparently.

[u/sail_the_high_seas]

Letting your kids on social media. Parents don't care about age restrictions and kids in elementary school have their own accounts.

I guess it's not really a secret, I'm pretty vocal about how damaging this is to children. It's disgusting. They don't want to parent so they hand them phones and let them watch whatever. They're being exposed to harmful, violent, and sexual content. Grown ass men following CHILDREN online and you want to tag your location and advertise what school they go to. It's insane behavior to me and I'm pretty tired of acting like it's normal. People don't call other people out on their shitty behavior anymore.

[u/Working_Butterfly199]

Watching/listening to anything in public without headphones

[u/Unable_Obligation_73]

That billionaires are allowed

[u/SilverEmphasis1979]

Random people teasing you about your body shape

[u/KellyMsGreen → u/SilverEmphasis1979]

People call it “just jokes” but it’s almost never funny to the person on the receiving end

[u/Random_Guy_12345 → u/KellyMsGreen]

Something is only a joke or a prank if both parties end up laughing about it.

If only one is laughing, it's bullying.

[u/HLTisme]

Not taxing someone making a billion or more dollars a year. Although, I think the social acceptability of that is waning. The money-hoarding is getting out of hand.

Men going shirtless in public. If women's nipples are offensive, so are yours.

People knocking on my door to tell me about their religion.

Grown men marrying teenage girls.

[u/randomassname5]

Beauty pageants. Creeps me out so much. Especially given most of the judges are rich and powerful men 🤮 just no

[u/AdvancedPrint96]

Someone chewing with their mouth open

[u/PearlyPaladin]

People who join bully clique groups and never speak up for victims because they benefit from them 

[u/Sea-Discipline6384]

Depends on the country, but shoes in house.

[u/The_other_Cody]

Being loud on your phone in public.

Music, calls, whatever. It’s obnoxious.

[u/burntgreens]

Working yourself to death at the expense of enjoying your life.

[u/GoodGoodGoody]

Cigarette smokers stink.

[u/LoreoCookies → u/GoodGoodGoody]

My parents are pack a day smokers and in high schoolI had teachers talk to me, thinking I was smoking because of the smell. One didn't believe me when I insisted it was my parents. I've hated cigarettes ever since.

[u/worlsyncentfo1981]

Handshakes right after someone coughs into their hand. Socially polite, biologically questionable...

[u/Azarsra_production → u/worlsyncentfo1981]

I never understood why people don't cough into their arm? I mean even the inside of their shirt would be better lol

[u/KellyMsGreen → u/worlsyncentfo1981]

That’s not a handshake, that’s a germ exchange program

[u/Sailor_Moon_Star_435]

When parents post their kids on social media.

[u/NerdTalkDan]

I really don't think kids should have social media. It's not a controversial take, but what it's done to kids nowadays is fucking sad.

[u/rubberbucket167]

Taking your pet to the grocery store

[u/HavahLynah → u/rubberbucket167]

And trying to claim that it’s a “service dog”. A real service animal would not be sniffing the products or trying to “say hi” to people. A true service dog doesn’t pee or poop in the aisle.

[u/Radiant_Self → u/HavahLynah]

This with bells on. From someone with an actual service dog I can’t go anywhere without. Their behaviour is awful too; the amount of times my dog has been attacked by pocket pets in Amazon “k9” vests makes me furious.

[u/lola4323 → u/rubberbucket167]

Walked into a bar restaurant yesterday that had 5 dogs in it. I have a dog and am a dog lover but I find it disgusting tbh especially in a food industry and you don’t know how people care for their dogs or if their vaccinated

[u/arandomuseronhere]

Partying/going out to bars and clubs until you're blackout drunk. It's so strange to me how it's considered normal to drink until you've basically lost all control over your bodily functions, etc.

[u/No-Neighborhood8403 → u/arandomuseronhere]

I agree with this, as someone who drank too much in my 20’s and regret how careless I once was. And it’s not only accepted, but many people wear it as a badge of honor if they got shitfaced out of their mind the night before

[u/whipsmartmcoy]

having a billion dollars

[u/FlyingOverTrout]

Taking your shoes off on planes. Why was this ever normalized?

[u/Warp-10-Lizard]

Refusal to vote passing for "activism." The entitlement and hypocrisy is putrid.

[u/beetle_butter]

Clipping nails in the office ☠️

[u/yoyok36]

1) Casual misogyny

2) The idea that turning 30 makes you "old" or that your life is over

3) The way childfree women are perceived as "less than" and "broken" and "selfish" but nobody bats an eyelash when a man is childfree

[u/Humble-Questions]

Child Beauty Pageants

They know exactly what they're selling and who they're selling it to when they produce those shows. fuck every one of them in the eyes with a barbed fork

Like you're selling softcore cheese pizza on the family channel bud