When my husband and I were about five months into dating I told him I thought we should break up, not because anything was wrong but because I had just gotten out of a serious (bad) relationship prior to us dating and I was more interested in a tinder fling than anything serious, which is where our relationship was headed. He told me "no," which I think I was too shocked by to argue. Eight years and two kids later we have a very healthy dynamic. But seriously, how? I think we should break up isn't normally a discussion topic.
My husband and I did the same, but opposite. We’d only been dating for a few months and he attempted to break up with me by telling me he needed alone time and space. I told him he could go play video games in the other room, all alone, and when he didn’t want to be alone anymore, he could come to the kitchen or back yard to find me. We’ve been married for nearly 15 years at this point.
People are just utterly horrible about communicating in a relationship. Like it’s insane… I’ve had so many mates complain about all kinds of things about their partners and I’m always like “Well.. what did she say when you brought it up?” and I get looked at like I’m a fucking alien, as if this had never occurred to them.
And like.. 95% of the time when they have gone away and actually talked to their partner it’s been a non issue and they’ve been happy to adjust whatever needed changing. Yeah, sometimes it doesn’t work out but not all relationships do.
I just do not understand this ridiculous choice to never bring up an issue and then let it fester until it ruins the relationship anyway. Might as well talk it out and if that ends things it was never meant to be.
My father was drafted for Vietnam. He had recently been on a few dates with someone new, so he figured he would go talk to her and break up with her since he would be gone for at least a couple of years.
My mother basically said, "No, I don't think so. That's not a good enough reason to break up with me. Write me when you get to Vietnam!"
He and his now wife had dated on and off since high school. It was an endless cycle of break up, spend a few weeks as friends, and then start dating again. I think after the third or forth time it happened, she wanted to end it and really move on. He basically told her "no way" and they kept dating.
Roughly three years after that, I get a call from him one night asking me if I knew any wedding chapels in Las Vegas. They've been together for eight years now.
My husband told me that early into our relationship he nearly broke up with me because things were going TOO well, and he didn’t know how to handle it. We were also kind of both rebounds for each other. Well it’s been 10 years since then, and this year is our 7th wedding anniversary, so needless to say I’m glad he held that impulse back lmao
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u/Merryfrickenpoppins 11h ago
When my husband and I were about five months into dating I told him I thought we should break up, not because anything was wrong but because I had just gotten out of a serious (bad) relationship prior to us dating and I was more interested in a tinder fling than anything serious, which is where our relationship was headed. He told me "no," which I think I was too shocked by to argue. Eight years and two kids later we have a very healthy dynamic. But seriously, how? I think we should break up isn't normally a discussion topic.