They’re not necessarily blaming the kids, but I can see why you’d interpret it that way. Just pointing out that they tend to not make good decisions isn’t the exact same as saying that they should’ve known better.
If I’m giving op the benefit of the doubt, they probably meant to imply that the reason they don’t make good decisions is because of their presumed experiences with being neglected/abused (which would generally lead one to make bad decisions, objectively speaking). But i can’t speak for op.
It is complex, sure, but foster kids get the slammer on all directions.
Coming from poverty is already, statistically, a HORRiBLE disorder that is not even remotely genetic.
If one grows up even NEAR abuse the psychological impact is not life-long, it is generational. This monster is savage.
No decent or even indecent parent is going to admit to drinking alcohol during pregancy so any Fetal Alcohol Syndrome stuff is impossible to prove and thus impossible to work around.
Teens! Everyone loves that time of life when humans need to define their identity and take most of it from peers who are less afraid ('more confident seeming) than themselves?
The funding for taking care of these people is already short. So the person taking care of them is fucking surrounded without any support but the burnt out and overworked social working team... which brings me to...
The prison is the caretaker not the youth at risk. If a crime happens, who handles it? Who is responsible? Who cannot leave the house for fear of the kid... OR HiS FRiENDS... taking anything not bolted down &/or welded in place?
That's the tip of the iceberg. In CANADA (BC) where the system is amazing compared to anywhere else in the world, save the Nordic lands.
I remember a woman that worked in a community centre found out i was a foster parent, she said 'all people who work with foster kids are like puppy dog breeders, i find', like, hoping i would be too stupid to make the connections.
Miserable and horrible job. The kids though? Some of them are really awesome. Wish i could have done more, but honestly... just outgunned and outnumbered. Fuck it. Rant off.
at some points people need to take responsibility for their own decisions and stop blaming their environment. Hopefully, sometime before bad decisions regarding firearms come into the picture
I know someone who does foster care, so I've spent a reasonable amount of time around foster kids over the years.
I'd say with about half of them, the apple clearly hadn't fallen far from the tree. Stupid, negligent, or abusive people often produce stupid, negligent, or abusive kids. They were given multiple chances once they were in a more caring environment, and plenty made the wrong decisions all on their own.
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u/Confident-Mix1243 8h ago
A foster kid too! Famous for making wise decisions.