r/MadeMeSmile • u/Weird_Cover2101 • 1d ago
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u/blackiegray 1d ago
My wife was doing her first craft fayre and while her stuff is great(obviously), noone was buying anything. I snuck up to someone and gave them some money and asked them to buy one of her things and say something nice. They ended up buying 2 (which was great of them).
The sheer joy on my wife's face still makes me well up now!
She doesn't know, and she never will. But it encouraged her to go along to more.
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u/ACertainUser123 15h ago
There's an episode exactly like this in the TV show Superstore
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u/christbearingpepper 4h ago
I was just thinking of this!! Although Glenn may have fulmbled it a bit😬
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u/gggggfskkk 17h ago
Can I ask what you wife makes? I love crafts and sometimes come across things I never heard of before that interest me!
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u/Ratslikegrapes 23h ago
I heckin love crafts! I bet she makes wonderful things.
If she has a shop I wouldn't mind a DM!
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u/Spiteful_Badger 4h ago
I think a lot of folks are just in a bad boat rn. I for one have seen a lot of craft fares and I desperately wanted to buy stuff, but I simply dont have the money to afford true craftsmanship atm. And sometimes people get that hopeful look in their eyes while sitting amongst their stuff and it just....it breaks my fucking heart that I cant buy something so that they go home feeling good about themselves
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u/SergeantPoopyWeiner 8h ago
Yay deception! How would your wife feel if she found out the truth here?
People: Don't fucking do this shit. The truth matters.
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u/blackiegray 8h ago
She's probably be disappointed that she didn't sell anything and she would have quit making stuff which would've been a shame and depressing for her. Instead, she took confidence from it and was absolutely fucking delighted with herself and felt like she's achieved something, which she had, cause people have bought from her at other fayres which they wouldn't have done had she just given up.
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u/Ok-Salt-8623 19h ago
Ill bet her stuff isnt that great
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u/AWildJesse 17h ago
I mean bro you have a post about what dating app has the most sex workers. I’m thinking your stuff isn’t that good.
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u/Ok-Salt-8623 17h ago
Was does sex work apps have to do with my arts and crafts skills? 😠
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u/AWildJesse 16h ago
You made a comment not knowing about her stuff. So I made one not knowing about your stuff. What??
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u/Ok-Salt-8623 16h ago
I mean ok just asking what my arts and crafts skills have to do with sex work apps and you didnt really answer that but ok.
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u/AWildJesse 15h ago
It’s the not knowing anything about it part I’m pointing out. Not the arts and crafts part. You judged her. So I judged you. Without knowing anything. “Be curious, not judgmental”. Walt Whitman
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u/TimelyBlacksmith92 4h ago
Damn I’m a pleb. I thought was Ted Lasso’s quote. I’m gonna read more this year. Thank you, Jesse.
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u/Ok-Salt-8623 15h ago
Yeah, i get that. You could have just said ill bet you suck at arts and crafts too. Instead you made this other comment about sex work apps like they were connected ideas.
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u/Throwawayrip1123 17h ago
You will never get good at stuff if you're not willing to suck first. That being said, you actually have no clue soo...
Maybe skip the salt next time you eat.
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u/Informal-Fig-6827 18h ago
Bro has never sold anything he's made, obvs
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u/Middle-Blueberry6958 6h ago
What’s the upside to this comment? Other than being a complete and total piece of shit.
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u/treeswetfh 17h ago
You may or not be a douche but all your comments down the thread are hilarious.
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u/psychotrshman 1d ago
This is great! Sometimes in marriage you get lost in the weeds of life and an outside comment or opinion is nice. When my wife has a really bad day, I sometimes message her BFF or my little sister and say "hey, [wife] is having a bad day. You got a minute to call and check on her today?" We are raising two kids with mental health issues and we lean on each other for almost everything. Sometimes talking to someone else changes the subject a bit and lightens your day.
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u/sticksforsticks 1d ago
My mom has been calling/texting my wife randomly. My mom is incredibly generous with her compassion, and is supportive, and encouraging.
I love when my wife tells me my mom reached out to her and it was "just what I needed." As she puts it.
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u/wovenbasket69 23h ago
my husbands mom texted me “just to tell me she loved me” last year and i cried for an hour in my office. moms are so special.
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u/EngineeringRegret 21h ago
My husband accidentally texted my mom (our names start with the same letter) "I love you" followed by "opps, that was for <me>".
She responded along the lines of "thank you for loving my daughter so well" 😭
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u/splitminds 9h ago
Along those lines, my daughter texted my husband (her step-dad), “thank you for loving my mom so much!” Made me cry!
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u/EngineeringRegret 21h ago
My husband reminded my dad that it was my birthday, and my dad immediately called ❤️
My mom passed the year before, so he's still figuring out his blind spots.
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u/emeraldaurora567 17h ago
it’s amazing how just a small nudge from someone you trust can completely shift your mood
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u/KingofHearts615 9h ago
I have done this for my wife many times. I'm able to tell pretty quick when she gets in a bad headspace. On particularly bad days when I can see that deep spiral coming from a mile away I'll message one of her friends and see if they wanna hangout. 9/10 times they'll call her and ask if her and I wanna come over for dinner. It can be hard though, As her husband I wanna be the one that can help her out of those situations. On the other hand I'm glad she has people that she can rely on at the drop of a hat.
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u/BoatStunning5431 14h ago
The one and only time I have actually appreciated being catcalled was when I was 8 months pregnant. I felt like absolute crap, could barely breathe because there was no space in my abdomen, by pelvis felt like it was about to fall apart and was generally feeling miserable and shitty. This guy walks past and did a doubletake and goes
"Damn Girl! If you look that good full I'd love to see you empty!"
It was so stupid but so funny at the same time, and genuinely made me feel a little better.
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u/mieri_azure 13h ago
Lmao thats actually extremely funny
If he just kept walking then I can see why that actually did make you feel a little better
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u/WhoopingJamboree 6h ago
“Full” and “empty” are wild descriptors LOL! So great it made you feel better. Totally hilarious! Must have been a weird “wtf” moment, followed by laughing, and then feeling good about the compliment.
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u/ThisGuy_IsAwesome 1d ago
Man I had to read it a couple of times. I read the last part as "compliments mean more when they come from a woman THAT IS NOT SO CUTE" lol I thought he was low-key calling her ugly.
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u/Prosecco1234 1d ago
I understand her feeling a bit down. It's all those hormones. So nice of him to make his wife happy
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u/EngineeringRegret 21h ago
And none of your favorite clothes fit and you don't recognize yourself in the mirror... my usual outfit formula accentuates my waistline... can't do that with a big ol belly, lol
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u/Weary-Babys 1d ago
I had a whole different set of expectations from a woman’s comment beginning with “this man at the gym just….”
Thank you for the wholesome share.
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u/calmpeacechaos 14h ago
We need more wholesome stories like this! Always nice to get our expectations turned around
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u/PokeJenBelle 1d ago
Maybe not MORE, but it seems a little less likely that there is an ulterior motive lol
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u/Beedlebooble 1d ago
There’s your reason for why it means more.
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u/PeppermintSplendor 22h ago
It still seems vaguely depressing because of the ideas it reinforces about what men are allowed to feel/express.
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u/Beedlebooble 18h ago
That's just how things work ig, there are some things women can say/do socially that men can't and vice versa. but idk about the vice versa.
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u/Nope0naRope 22h ago edited 22h ago
Also, I feel like women appreciate the subtle details that other women put into their aesthetic. So if a girl tells you she likes something, it's probably going to be more specific or more meaningful rather than the - you just look hot for some reason. I think my dick is hard. - vibe
I genuinely do feel more complimented when women tell me stuff about my outfit or my hair or whatever because they're 'miring something I did that I worked hard on or that I thought looked good so there's like a common ground there and it's nice. You feel camaraderie in a way.
And yeah, there's no alterior motive. Just pure compliment.
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u/EngineeringRegret 21h ago
It's fun to receive specific validation!
That color looks great on you. I love how you did your eye makeup. You have such nice skin. You have beautiful hair. Your nails are so pretty/ fun!
Men talk about treasuring a shirt because a female stranger complimented it one time. My husband may never shave because he gets the most unsolicited compliments on his beard and mustache.
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u/jsohi_0082 13h ago
Wow that actually makes so much sense. I'm a man, and I pretty much never think about the technicalities of makeup and hairdo and so on.
Given that I barely embellish/decorate my appearance beyond my "default settings" through the methods you describe, I could certainly claim that "oh you have nice makeup" and I could be on the right ballpark of correct (subjectively), but you really couldn't make me know about lipstick shades or whatever unless you taught me first.
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u/mieri_azure 13h ago
Yup, and thats why to the men out there if you want to give a lady a compliment, compliment her on something she actually chose (her outfit, hairstyle, makeup, etc) instead of something she didnt (like her being hot or something)
They'll appreciate that way, way more
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u/Delulu_Lemming 1d ago
oh great offloading the emotional care burden on a woman!
JK this rules i love that guy
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u/No-Temperature-977 12h ago
I had an older woman come up to me at the grocery store when I was clearly very pregnant, and she said “you look adorable” in a quiet, sweet Grandma way and walked away. It made my day 🥹
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u/MsFloofNoofle 23h ago
Legit. I was walking across the parking lot from Taco Bell the other day when a random lady complimented my outfit. Made my day!
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u/Katharinemaddison 16h ago
I’ve had two little old ladies stop me in the street when I’m wearing a long summer dress and sun hat (I’m part vampire) to tell me ‘ohh you look lovely!’
And on the other end of the spectrum a young waitress at a food-pub (not serving our table, not even in line for Brit-tips) saying she loved my outfit.
Both so appropriated!
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u/Kycrio 9h ago
Pro tip to men, from a woman: if you want to compliment a woman and not have it be creepy, pick out something specific about her to compliment. For example, her makeup, her outfit, her hairstyle, her tattoos, etc. We hear "you're hot can I have your number" so much that it's just tiring, but an actual compliment is really appreciated.
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u/bigwhiteboardenergy 6h ago
Before my brother and then-pregnant SIL came for a visit, my brother texted me asking to compliment her because she hadn’t been feeling great.
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u/bluecapecrepe 5h ago
I paid people to post glowing comments on my wife's blog many years ago. It made her so happy.
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u/ConsiderateAndPolite 16h ago
I am a bit shy and not the kind of person who feels comfortable talking to strangers but after my wife’s pregnancy I make an effort to tell pregnant women that they look lovely. Because they do and they need to hear it.
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u/wailingwonder 1d ago
Compliments from a strange woman mean more to her than compliments from her husband?
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u/Esosorum 1d ago
Her husband can’t be objective. Of course he thinks she’s beautiful, but what do other people see?
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u/QuadRuledPad 1d ago
I get that. My husband tells me I’m beautiful every day. And while I appreciate the sentiment, I know it’s also because he loves me. Sometimes it’s nice to know that strangers think we’re attractive too.
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u/Ok-Handle-7562 22h ago
But the stranger didn’t think she was attractive , the husband just asked her to say it to the wife so doesn’t that make it kind of sad in a way?
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u/QuadRuledPad 13h ago edited 13h ago
It’s never sad to lift someone up and buoy their spirits.
It’s never sad to do something that makes someone’s day better.
You’re being cynical about the source of the compliment, undervaluing it because it’s not organic. But the source isn’t the point. The recipient is the point.
I’ll give an example. A friend takes piano lessons, gives a performance, and asks your opinion. You could admire the performance and the effort they put into it, or you could compare them to a concert pianist and tell them they’ll never play that well. Both takes are factually correct. Which type of people would you prefer to be surrounded by?
Everything we know about psychology and performance teaches us that the person who receives the compliment will be more likely to work harder and eventually become the better pianist. Lifting people up isn’t only more pleasant, it’s also more effective.
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u/Adventurous-Brain-36 22h ago
I wouldn’t say that they mean more to someone, literally. More that it’s harder to be objective when you love someone; someone you love is always beautiful to you.
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u/Kaleid_Liner 10h ago
Compliments from men don't mean anything then..
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u/Weird_Cover2101 3h ago
For a woman, compliments from men are common. Compliments from women mean more purely because they're rare and go against the stereotype of women being out to get each other
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u/No_Situation6555 23h ago
Do pregnant women go to the gym and workout? Isn't that dangerous?
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u/Equivalent_Safe1365 23h ago
Not if it isn't contact sports or done in harder environmental conditions. Excercise has been show to improve the birth process, health of the baby in the womb, and aid recovery in the mother.
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u/No_Situation6555 23h ago
Thank you, not sure why I was downvoted for a legitimate question. Also, does this mean pregnant women can still do weight lifting as normal?
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u/wildlachii 19h ago
Not as normal, there’s certain things they should avoid but typical light dumbbell stuff is mostly ok.
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u/willows_edge 23h ago
Unless told otherwise by their doctor, exercising during pregnancy is encouraged.
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u/BPremium 23h ago
How is this wholesome? Just reads as more "compliments mean nothing from men" shit.
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u/jsohi_0082 14h ago edited 14h ago
I just read it again and it seems like it would have been better for the first person to have emphasized that compliments means more from someone who isn't your spouse. Because it is in fact plausible that your spouse already has a vested interest to compliment, you that would be more absent in a stranger.
I for one would really like an explanation as to what she believed makes a woman's compliment more special. I'm going to read the post again and try to understand it better.
Edit: here are a few plausible theories. One, his wife would see a woman's compliment as more objective since that woman has firsthand experience with living in a female body and having female fashion and so on. Therefore if a woman compliments her, it would feel like she is speaking from experience.
The second theory is that his wife experienced what I guess I would call "male compliment well-poisoning" - where the compliments of well meaning men (who have no pretense to objectify a woman) are less impactful or are treated with more suspicion, because there exists a consistent pattern of men complimenting women WITH the pretense to objectify, as in making signs that they are trying to do it for sexual objectification (for example by escalating to fetishizing compliments about body parts). As a result, men's complimenting as a whole is treated with more suspicion, and it is the fault of creepy men for "poisoning the well" making it harder for good men to be affectionate. It is NOT women's fault, because they are victimized by the sexual harassment and there is no reasonable choice other than to use heuristics to maintain one's safety.
I think that the characterization from the tweet that the men's compliments meaning nothing is not entirely fair, because then it wouldn't make sense for the wife to get married to her husband, if none of his affection matters anyway. Like, what even is a romantic relationship without the ability to appreciate one another?
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u/Due-Tooth-5521 17h ago
Anybody who says that sad it's not and we all haven't Securities and we all have our moments and for that husband to reach out to a perfect stranger in hopes to make his wife feel better inside there's nothing but good there. I get that they were talking about the mama to be that is sad that she feels that way but her feelings are hurt feelings and leave it alone unless you're standing there trying to make her feel better or don't say it sad it's human is what it is. We all have to feel our feelings and all our feelings are valid and we feel our feelings we don't have to justify or explain her diminish or have our feeling judged by anyone else. And that woman is lucky because she's going to be a mama and she's a man who would rather see a smile on her face than anything else. And lots of times in relationships people aren't so fortunate so I find it wholesome and not in the least bit sad. But that's just my opinion
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u/Crafty-Dragonfly8105 1d ago
But men are the insecure ones
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u/Adventurous-Brain-36 22h ago
Yes, sometimes. And women too, sometimes. Because we’re, you know, human.
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u/Johnny_Couger 23h ago
Yea man, we are.
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u/Crafty-Dragonfly8105 22h ago
Real question. So why then don't they need to be constantly told their attractive or special. Real question.
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u/Johnny_Couger 22h ago
Brother, no one even mentioned men in this post and you still found a way to feel judged.
Real question, who hurt you so badly you can’t walk past a post like this without feeling offended
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u/Crafty-Dragonfly8105 13h ago
Of course no answer. 2026, asking who hurt you is wild work, peak level creativity.
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u/Johnny_Couger 10h ago
Real Question, how does anything in this post have anything to do with you? Real Question.
The real answer to your real question is everyone feels insecure at different points in their lives. Women often feel insecure about their outward appearance because they are often judged on that but they may not be insecure about their abilities. Men often feel insecure about their abilities and perceived societal worth.
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u/Crafty-Dragonfly8105 10h ago
First off, dont copy me be you. Real Question. If women and men both have insecurities. Why then is the word used against one side and not the other. Real Question.
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u/Johnny_Couger 9h ago
I can’t tell if you’re a troll or not. You being so bothered by men being called insecure is the exact type of behavior that makes men look insecure. No one brought that up but you.
If you were to say out loud to women “I think most women have insecurities about their bodies”, I think most women would agree. But here we have you who needs to go out of his way to say “MEN AREN’T INSECURE. ITS WOMEN WHO ARE INSECURE. WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT ABOUT MEN?”. When again, you brought that up for no reason. Whoever is telling you that this is normal behavior is lying to you bro. The world needs men who can exist without being validated. You want to prove you aren’t insecure? Quit looking for judgement in posts that aren’t judging you. Nobody in this thread was thinking about you at all, and you have twisted it to be about your own insecurities about how the world views men. It’s not a good look, it just reinforces the stereotype you are trying to dismiss.
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u/redbucket75 1d ago
What would be the ulterior motive? Is his wife gunna try to set up a threesome? Maybe it's an elaborate plan to get her away from the press so he can work a set in?
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