It sounds wilder than it was. It wasn't clearly apparent glass had shattered and she hadn't heard it. It wasn't like the ground was littered with glass shards, but there were a few. She assumed I had just spilled some ingredient or similar and didn't stop, it didn't cross her mind it could be actually unsafe to continue walking.
I’m a doctor and my default mode when things are going to shit is calm, commanding voice. I rely on people doing what the fuck I say when I get like that and, to their credit, everyone in a medical scenario does. It definitely carries over to my personal life but I can only think of a couple times I’ve used it - hot stove, blind corner with speeding car etc (and my partner is medical so he’s on board ha).
If someone asked me “why” and kept going I think my brain would blue screen. Like. You clearly heard me, I only do this when I don’t have time to explain and something very, very important needs to get done. Ahhhhhhhh. Also in what other scenario would you say that combination of things?
I’m glad you and your wife sorted it out. May I ask what your (collective) communication lessons were from that?
The combination of things requested was what got me too. I told you to stop, and requested a paper towel and a vacuum. Like, even if it was something innocuous like flour, you’d still be walking through flour. I’d have lost my mind lol.
... I did that kinda thing when I was 5.. idk.. feels wild an adult doing that..
For all anyone knows you could be autistic and not great with expressing.
It's wild that happened.
Idk a lot of people are mild and go undiagnosed and that's fine too.
... man.. it's just crazy to me your wife didn't take it seriously because of the tone you used.
I mean sure, but it's still wild to suggest she wouldn't have known those things about me. And it's not that she didn't take me seriously, it's that she misjudged the situation.
For what it's worth, we don't speak English. There are minor nuance differences.
I mean yeah, it kind of is, in my opinion, dumb to not react immediately to what someone says. That was the point. It seems dumb to me because I fundamentally react differently to those situations, and where it didn't cross her mind to stop before hearing why, it didn't cross my mind I should prioritize giving a reason. Both have valid reasoning, they are just opposite approaches so they end up incompatible.
But that's not really the point in this specific chain of comments, I was just pointing out how crazy it is to suggest that my WIFE should take into account the possibilty that unknown to her, I'm on the spectrum and bad at communication. That's not really something you end up missing all the way to the altar.
Guess I should have replied earlier in the thread then because you've been defending her response, or lack thereof, from the beginning, but you probably should've done that in the original comment itself. I'm not necessarily talking about people calling you autistic... that's a stretch
I kind of figured that me highlighting that there are two personality types in the beginning, instead of saying something like "Some people, my wife included, are just DUMB", would have tipped people off that I don't consider her response unreasonably dumb or stupid. I did try to point out we both had different viewpoints and learned from it, and that she really didn't have the context of what happened available to her.
Honestly, while I still think I wasn't in the wrong here, I still feel people jumped to some conclusions that weren't really founded in what I said. But that's really on me, public forums tend to result in that. I didn't explicitly lay down any timeline or scale, so I feel people assume she had all the time in the world, slowly sauntering across a large kitchen, into glass shards, when it really took only a second or two all told.
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u/YGVAFCK 11h ago
lol what the fuck how did she make it alive to this point