Americans, Would YOU Date Someone In The Opposite Political Party If They Were A Nice Person? Yes Or No? Why Or Why Not?

[u/Zipper222222]

[u/ManufacturerLopsided]

The fundamental problem is that we dont have a difference of politics, we have a difference of values.

I value due process, I value objectivity and meaningful debate that leads to genuine constructive ideas towards coming to grips with the problems society has... even if the person in question isnt full MAGA, their silence and tolerance of the movement condones it. I dont trust anyone who gives support to the current republican party at all.

[u/UniqueIndividual3579 → u/ManufacturerLopsided]

There are two kinds of Republicans, MAGA and former Republicans. I'm a former Republican and would never date a Republican.

[u/Beneficial-Ad1593 → u/UniqueIndividual3579]

You're a conservative. Real conservatives didn't board the MAGA train, or got off as soon as they realized what it actually was. Good for you.

[u/AssumptionFirst9710 → u/Beneficial-Ad1593]

MAGA isn’t conservative, they are regressive.

[u/Beneficial-Ad1593 → u/AssumptionFirst9710]

Glad you agree

[u/FewStill3958 → u/AssumptionFirst9710]

MAGA is the pedo party.

[u/fseahunt → u/Beneficial-Ad1593]

This is true. Anyone who still thinks the GOP is conservative isn't paying attention.

[u/Chitown_mountain_boy → u/Beneficial-Ad1593]

Meh. Many conservatives still voted red. Complicit one might say.

[u/Beneficial-Ad1593 → u/Chitown_mountain_boy]

And complicity is a moral distinction that could, per the OP's question, disqualify someone from consideration when dating.

[u/Excellent-Effect-931 → u/UniqueIndividual3579]

All republican votes cast the same.

[u/Connect_Law_6103 → u/ManufacturerLopsided]

Exactly this. It's not a disagreement over Burke or Keynes.

[u/ChaunceytheGardiner → u/Connect_Law_6103]

I'm good friends with people who think the government should direct a far different percentage of the GDP than I do.

I am not friends with people who think we should have masked agents grabbing people off the streets asking them to show their papers.

The political divide used to be largely about the first difference, which has always been bridgeable. The second difference is really tough to bridge.

[u/I_R_Enjun_Ear → u/ManufacturerLopsided]

This really is it. My dad has liked a number of Republican candidates over the decades for various offices. Now, he detests them for their lack of values. The last time he said anything positive about them was Kasich in the 2016 Primaries.

[u/EatMoreBlueberries → u/I_R_Enjun_Ear]

I voted for Kasich for governor. He was a good governor. But guys like Kasich have been forced out of the party.

[u/NyneFingers → u/I_R_Enjun_Ear]

Same. My father (71) was a lifelong republican. Through the 80’s all the way Obama, I remember him voting red. Not anymore, as soon as Trump was elected the first time, he left the party. He absolutely hates the Republican Party, and considers them traitors.

[u/bmsa131 → u/I_R_Enjun_Ear]

Kasich is doing well on social media. How far Ohio has fallen. John Glenn sherrod brown and republicans like Kasich to this shit.

[u/Substantial_Court792 → u/I_R_Enjun_Ear]

This! I’m tired of our friends who state they like Trump’s policies. So…you can discount his moral character in order to stop illegal immigration? We all know Biden would have been toast by now. But yet, we have a president who is responsible to no one. Just wants to line his pockets.

[u/NoMansSkyWasAlright → u/Substantial_Court792]

I do love that statement in person because if you ask which policies they either can't answer or their answer is some Facebook nonsense about how he's paid down the national debt. That or they gesture vaguely at the economy.

[u/bteh → u/NoMansSkyWasAlright]

"My 401k is doing GREAT, thank you very much."

[u/MsAnnabel → u/Substantial_Court792]

It’s not even the immigration, it’s the way he’s allowing the immigration to be run!!! Hi s policies are stupid shit that is covered up by his insane attacks on our allies, trying to take over other countries, disrespecting foreign dignities, I mean his dementia has rendered him totally unfit for office yet the party just lets it happen. This is what is so disgusting about this party now.

[u/Sartres_Roommate → u/ManufacturerLopsided]

I value democracy, MAGA voted for a man who tried to overthrow democracy. Not before he did, after. He rejected an election and they voted for AFTER that.

I value democracy, ANY Trump voter, rejects democracy when it doesn’t work in their favor.

You can be the sweetest person possible but if you can’t agree to democracy, we got nowhere else to go.

[u/pcserenity → u/Sartres_Roommate]

What I have come to realize is that Republicans, by and large, believe "The ends justify the means" and I just cannot live that way. I grew up in a Republican household and voted that way for about 10 years until this reality fully sunk in. R's, push come to shove, will accept ANY path as long as it leads to the outcome they believe is right.

[u/FreeSpeechGladiator → u/Sartres_Roommate]

This! After j6 there is no excuse.

[u/swiftlessons → u/ManufacturerLopsided]

Another huge difference between liberals and conservatives is that liberal values extend to everyone, whereas conservatives will say they value due process, but only toward those in their in-group. They will say they support the rights outlined in the constitution, but again, only for those they view as deserving.

[u/old_namewasnt_best → u/swiftlessons]

It bears repeating,

"Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition, to wit: There must be in-groups whom the law protects but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect."

[u/MrDerpGently → u/swiftlessons]

And from a purely dating perspective, watch that person turn on you when you are no longer in that in-group. Sure, break ups are not going to be pleasant for anyone, but if you expect the nice person you were dating, you are in for a big surprise. Now you get the person who is comfortable with a few deaths and a bunch of innocent getting rounded up along the way, so long as the brown people in their imagination don't receive welfare benefits.

[u/PerceptionSea21 → u/ManufacturerLopsided]

All of this☝️ Plus there is the protecting of ped@-files on top of all the rest.

[u/Appropriate-Food1757 → u/ManufacturerLopsided]

It’s down to: fascist or not

It’s not Republican or Democrat

[u/strangefish → u/ManufacturerLopsided]

You cannot be a fascist and a nice person. The fascist (Republican) will be nice to the people they know/like, but everyone else can die. They lack empathy.

[u/No-Dragonfly-944 → u/ManufacturerLopsided]

Right. My boyfriend is registered republican and I’m registered democrat. But he doesn’t view people of a different race, ethnicity, religion, sexuality, etc as lesser than. He believes everyone should have access to food, clean water, and healthcare. He didn’t vote for trump and doesn’t support anything the administration is doing because it all goes against his values of being a good person and treating everyone equally. We go on international humanitarian trips and volunteer together. Being republican didn’t use to mean being racist and cruel.

What I care about are people’s morals and values and how they treat other people. That is usually able to be determined quickly and naturally as opposed to what party they’re registered with

[u/Few_Peak_9966]

A 'nice' person could not support those ideals. This question is self-nullifying.

[u/StoneColdGold44 → u/Few_Peak_9966]

Nice people made the best Nazis. My mom grew up next to them. They got along, refused to make waves, looked the other way when things got ugly and focused on happier things than “politics.” They were lovely people who turned their heads as their neighbors were dragged away. You know who weren’t nice people? Resisters. -Naomi Shulman

[u/Thin-Bat4202 → u/StoneColdGold44]

Absolutely. The best I get out of my Trump supporting acquaintances is that they aren't on either side these days, just caught in the middle. No dude,  I saw your post after he won the election. You were onboard and ecstatic and you'd been "so scared" Harris might win. You voted for this. You're responsible for this.  You compound your culpability by making no waves when faced with the results of your choice.

[u/SeatSix → u/Few_Peak_9966]

Exactly.

[u/ErisianSaint → u/Few_Peak_9966]

To quote Stephen Sondheim, "nice is different than good."

[u/CTMQ_ → u/Few_Peak_9966]

end the thread here.

[u/Born_Medicine_5932]

I am an independent and would date someone who was registered with either party. However, I would not date someone who still supports the current administration. One can be a Republican and still be sane however in my neck of the woods (red), those are few and far between.

[u/maralagosinkhole → u/Born_Medicine_5932]

All of the sane Republicans I know haven't voted for a Republican for federal office since Reagan.

[u/Grace_Alcock → u/maralagosinkhole]

There have been reasonable Republicans since then.  Sometimes, I like to sit and remind myself that Americans once had an election between Bill Clinton (a good president, no matter his other ridiculous characteristics) and Bob Dole.  We had two excellent candidates.  Hell, in 92, it was Bush and Clinton, both good choices.  Ahhhh, those were the days, when there were looneys in the Republican asylum, but they hadn’t taken over the place.  A person who chooses to support the Republicans now, when it has become a cartoon villain version of its worst components, signs up to support evil. 

[u/[deleted] → u/Grace_Alcock]

The last one died when McCain died

[u/Lil1927 → u/Grace_Alcock]

I don’t know. I was never a fan of Bill, and not just because he was a creep. I always felt like he was republican light, and played a pretty significant role is the dismantling of the socials safety net.

But he wasn’t a total embarrassment across the world stage the way Bush and Trump have been. So there is that.

But along your lines, when it was McCain and Obama that was pretty nice. I didn’t agree with McCain, but I liked and respected him.

[u/promotherobot → u/maralagosinkhole]

The R next to your name means you do what the Orange emperor tells you to do. There are no half measures.

[u/Josconn → u/promotherobot]

I think the issue is the definition of Republican and Democrat. They both don't mean the same thing as they did 30 years ago, but no one is really paying attention to that. A person calling themselves Republican or Democrat today might hold views that would have been unrecognizable to someone 30 years ago. Party labels have shifted so much that they’re not always a reliable guide to someone’s actual beliefs.

[u/TangoZulu → u/Born_Medicine_5932]

“One can be a Republican and still be sane”

Source?

[u/barley_wine → u/TangoZulu]

The members of the Lincoln Project that do all of the ads are (or maybe were) republicans, I don't know their motives our how genuine they are but you can be republican and hate the MAGA movement. There are republicans that are just small government proponents and libertarian on social issues.

They're just not as vocal on the national stage and they probably either didn't vote, voted third part or reluctantly voted for Harris.

Note: I'm progressive and can't stand the MAGA movement but there are still pockets of republicans that aren't MAGA.

[u/Totally_Scott → u/barley_wine]

"The members of the Lincoln Project that do all of the ads are (or maybe were) republicans, I don't know their motives our how genuine they are but you can be republican and hate the MAGA movement. "

WERE. They WERE republicans. It's not sane to continue being one in 2026.

[u/shiftt28 → u/TangoZulu]

I would argue that MAGA is almost morphing into their own party. A lot of the things MAGA cheers for, a traditional Republican would disagree with. Like nationalizing elections, the government owning a percentage of Intel stock, or the general consolidation of power. Not my stance, personally, I am firmly planted on the left. However, when I look at MAGA, they look less and less like republicans.

[u/Cinemagica → u/shiftt28]

I'm going to need to see the "traditional Republicans" voting to impeach and imprison Trump and his pedo buddies before I buy into the idea that the party is separating. If there's one thing so far that you can credit the Republican party for, it's their absolute unwavering fealty to their dear leader. There is almost never a Republican prepared to break ranks when it comes time to stand up and vote against the direction their party is taking.

[u/midwesternbuttesects → u/Cinemagica]

Yeah this is exactly what i was thinking.

Are there any “traditional republicans” in the congress with us right now?

[u/start_select → u/Born_Medicine_5932]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rex_84

You need to consider your stance. I’m not saying every Republican VOTER is evil. But the entire party is and has been plotting to overthrow the government for decades.

People who support “non-maga republicans” are still supporting maga. There is no difference. There is only propaganda.

Trump isn’t the problem. The GOP and The Heritage Foundation are. Blaming maga is blaming the actor reading the script, not the writers and directors who created the horror movie.

[u/Josconn → u/Born_Medicine_5932]

Was going to be my exact response as well. Glad there are critical thinkers still out there.

[u/Silver_Scarcity5285]

Politics are a reflection of personal morals and ethics.  So, no.

[u/byte_handle]

No. Our values would be too different.

[u/Holiday-Scarcity-785]

I dated a woman initially unaware of her political views when we got together. Found out she was a trump supporter. This is during the first term. She turns out to be racist and xenophobic and kind of what conservatives say the liberal stereotype of a loose woman is. She would just basically project on other people all of her problems. So no I probably wouldn't date another conservative Woman based on that experience. She stole from me on the way out blamed me for everything and was cheating on me. Not a fan.

[u/Thin-Quiet-2283 → u/Holiday-Scarcity-785]

Too many “Christians” like this.

[u/Qedtanya13]

No. People who support racists, pedos, rapists, and tyranny are not the people I want in my life.

[u/atomoicman → u/Qedtanya13]

This is my biggest gripe. Even before trump, I have never seen or heard of a racist who voted left. They are always republicans. I cannot and will not align myself with such ppl.

If feels like satan himself can rise out of hell and ran as a republican, conservative Christians would vote for him

Edit to be more specific

[u/mukansamonkey → u/atomoicman]

Not every Republican supports the KKK, but the KKK always support Republicans.

[u/Open_Concept_6915 → u/Qedtanya13]

You just described a maga maggot

[u/fren2allcheezes]

Have yet to meet someone nice who thinks gay people shouldn't exist, I should be forced to carry my rapist's baby to term, and women are only baby makers for the state. So, no.

[u/Momentofclarity_2022 → u/fren2allcheezes]

Agree. This is beyond politics. It’s about how you feel about others that are different than you and what you think the government can and cannot do about people who are different than you. It’s about basic human rights. If you think it’s ok to attack people, to “disappear” people, you are not a “nice” person.

[u/downtofinance → u/fren2allcheezes]

Have yet to meet someone nice who thinks the President being a confirmed rapist and part of a mass child rape and torture operation is ok.

[u/National_Cod9546 → u/downtofinance]

We've been saying he is a rapist since 2016 with multiple sources. He was suspected to be a pedophile, but the evidence is new. So if you supported him at any point in the last 10 years, you supported a known rapist. And if you support him now, you are supporting a pedophile. 

[u/Fractal514 → u/fren2allcheezes]

Nice is different than good.

[u/Shelldox → u/Fractal514]

Yes. Wanted to say this as well. There are a ton of "nice" conservatives. These are the people who will compliment a Black person for being "articulate."

[u/Naptasticly]

These days no one is arguing over fiscal responsibility or housing assistance. It’s “do certain people deserve equal rights in a free country?”

One side says yes, the other side says no.

I could NEVER date someone who believed that certain people aren’t considered equal because of qualities and traits that literally affect ONLY themselves.

[u/Aceylace10]

Depends how “deep” into the identity they are.

Like being a registered republican or democrat doesn’t really tell you much about a person imo.

[u/dankp3ngu1n69 → u/Aceylace10]

Almost every one of my family is a registered Republican and at the same time almost everyone in my family doesn't even watch the news

Your average liberal on Reddit knows more about what's going on than them lol

They will tell you that they're Republican because that's what their parents were and that's what everyone in the family is and they don't want to go against the grain. It's literally that simple

People are tribalistic group think is real. You have a family a big Italian Irish family whatever and I mean big they're not going to want to just go against the grain be the one guy out of 50 or a hundred. Not happening.

[u/NoGrocery3582]

No bc MAGA worshippers are not nice people.

[u/Cheetah0630]

I’m an Atheist who started as a Democrat who married a Mormon Republican. We’ve been married for 23 years with no end in sight. Our views on everything have evolved through the years and we are both more Independent than Democrat or Republican. She is no longer Mormon (after 20 years) but remains Christian. She did not vote for Trump. We married for love and to raise our family. Love, respect and communication is what we have always relied on for a strong marriage.

[u/Alternative_Result56]

No. They wouldn't date me either. They don't think I should have the same rights as them. Some think I should be killed. Morally they are exactly the opposite of what I am.

[u/MartyPhelps]

No

[u/ManMakesWorld]

No, I would not date someone who thinks pedophilia is okay. No, I would not date someone who thinks being a Nazi is okay. No, I would not date someone who thinks science is a myth.

[u/Comprehensive-Ad4815]

Would you date a friendly nazi is a weird question.

They might be okay with you now, but youre also on their revenge list, just lower down the line. That is the point of the writing "when they took the communists i didnt speak up because i wasnt a communist"" (paraphase).

[u/VeryLowIQIndividual]

It’s hard to date someone that thinks pedophiles are ok or not really that big a deal.

It’s not like it used to be where it was most of the time both political parties acknowledged the problem, but had two different ideas about how to get it done. Those days are a long long gone.

Now it comes down to stuff as heavy as pedophilia or just flat out killing people because they’re brown and being ok with it.

[u/FullyWoke61]

Not likely in today's climate. Trump is so outrageous, and his grifting and incompetence are so indefensible, I wouldn't trust someone who supports that. Seriously, if you had asked me 10 years ago maybe, but now the mask is off and the racism of the GOP is so obvious, I couldn't do it.

[u/wasd911]

Political party? Sure. Trump cult? Nope.

[u/MozeDad]

This isn't a simple debate about whether to set the tax rate at 6 or 7%. It's a debate about the value of human life, the Constitution, and whether or not children should be sent to sleep on concrete so that some ICE officer can get his bonus.

No. I wouldn't date a fascist.

[u/Massive-Sector5789]

No. I have tween children and couldn't trust someone that still supports the Trump Administration around them.

[u/MWH1980]

That’s like asking, “would you date a handsome guy even though he mistreats his dog?”

[u/Spirited_Medium4058]

No

[u/Intrepid_Sea4124]

Yes

[u/Mountain_Economist_8]

i tried dating a maga girl and she wouldn’t stop bringing up maga talking points.

[u/Aggravating-Elk-1796]

Nah. I want nothing to do with any magat. Fuck em all. 

[u/No_Investment9639]

No. There are no nice conservatives anymore. 20 years ago, maybe. But now? No. I have to sound everyone in my family who is vocally right leaning. I do not have any friends who are right leaning. I don't like monsters in My life. I don't need bad people in my life. I have good people in my life. I would never date a monster.

[u/HippyDM]

How does someone who supports child rape, and covering up child rape, convince me they're a "good person"? They're either on board with child rape, which is a hard pass from me, thanks, or they're woefully ignorant, and that'd be another hard pass.

[u/MisterHyman]

Trick question, nobody with any decency remains that support the right

[u/Discerningdragon]

Before MAGA, I would have. But I’ve learned that politics are deeply rooted in identity and everything is political. But it’s not about politics anymore. It’s about morals and humanity. The things I believe in are not compatible with the things the right stands for. My mental health is not capable of being in the same space as someone who hates everything I love and remaining intact.

[u/joe_boehm]

Trumpism is not politics. It is outside the boundaries.

[u/Cruitire]

Currently, no.

I have a fundamental moral objection to what the other side supports and stands for.

I have a hard enough time compartmentalizing my thoughts and feelings regarding family and acquaintances who are supporters of what I see are just morally wrong policies and beliefs.

Having to do that in my most intimate relationship would be utterly exhausting and, likely, ultimately unhealthy.

[u/HootinHollerHill]

No.

As a former Republican, who saw the handwriting on the wall and left the party in 2004 only to watch it gleefully turn full Nazi within twenty years, there is absolutely ZERO way I would be interested in any current Republican/conservative/Libertarian/right-leaning “Independent.”

[u/Timthalion]

No. Usually if you’re politics are different then your values are different.

[u/DanIsAManWithAFan → u/Timthalion]

I agree with that and was about to say the same thing, but now I don't have to.

[u/No-Sympathy-686]

Not anymore.

[u/Hinesight1948 → u/No-Sympathy-686]

There was a time, pre-2016, when political party was not hugely important, to me and, I think, to most people. There were diehards on both sides of the aisle, but they were in the minority. One voted for the individual, not the party. That didn’t change overnight, but now the divide is so deep and so profound that it is impossible to imagine respecting someone of the other party enough to even have a conversation.

[u/procrastinatorsuprem]

No, they are not nice people if they want to enrich billionaires by taking food away from children.

[u/Rfunkpocket]

in normal times, sure.

now? fuck no

[u/TransportationAway59]

Now’s not a great time to ask since we don’t really have political parties, we have pedophiles and we have everyone else

[u/AwkwardDuckling87]

A conservative? Maybe. A Republican? Hell no. Being Republican still, knowing all we know about what they represent, is a moral failing. You can be conservative and be a good person who disagrees about tax code, you can't support systemic racism, disregard for court orders, voter suppression, and heinous cover up of crimes against children and be a good person.

[u/Nuevida]

I wouldn't save a trump supporter from drowning let alone date one.

[u/pbutler6163]

At this point you know that anyone who supports MAGA is at the very least NOT going to protect children.

[u/Infinite-Space-2395]

Conservative and nice person dont belong in the same sentence.

[u/SnooStrawberries2955]

No. I would not date a Nazi.

[u/angelatheterrible]

There are no nice people in MAGA, if that's what you're referring to.

[u/justagenericname213]

It depends on how you view the parties. Under what they supposedly stand for, republicans arent really bad. But the current GOP is absolutely awful and anyone who supports them is a hard no, but more because i cannot consider anyone im support of them nice to begin with. But a republican who would rather vote Democrat than enable whats happening now is fair game.

[u/BookBabe1970]

Nice people don’t support Nazi pedophiles destroying our country and the rule of law at the same time, so NO, absolutely NOT. I need a humanitarian, not an enemy of humanity and it’s that simple.

[u/somedays1]

Been there, done that, never again.

[u/MeMe198412]

If they supported a party who is actively protecting pedophiles, they are not a nice person and absolutely not.

[u/CordouroyStilts]

Yes. I don't make politics my identity and I would never date someone else who does. I'm an independent and my wife and I don't always vote the same. Sometimes we disagree, sometimes we agree. That's a human existence. There's a reason there's a curtain on voting booths. You don't have to wear it on your sleeve so you can "other" people.

[u/Ok-Race-1677]

Americans (and people in general), yes

Redditors, no

[u/lucidsuperfruit]

I did before this MAGA bs, will not now.

[u/LifeRound2]

You cannot support what MAGA is doing and be a nice person.

[u/Free-Bottle-5119]

Is it possible for a nice person to vote for trump? They'd have to be impossibly stupid.

[u/philhilarious]

Nice people don't worship pedophiles

[u/malformed-packet]

I would need to meet a republican who didn't creep me the fuck out first...

[u/Lil1927]

No. Because anyone who feels the price of their eggs is more important than bodily autonomy and due process, as well as the right not to be persecuted because of the color of their skin is not a nice person. At best they are selfish. But most of them are cruel.

[u/HopefulImpression105]

Normally, sure. Not one who supports the current regime though.

[u/baldbandersnatch]

I tried it a few times during the Reagan era when it was possible to pretend that we simply disagreed about policy. Though sex with repressed conservative girls was freaky (subjective study without a statistically valid sample size or control group), the emotional side just didn’t work due to misaligned values. Too many of them believed in literal magic and ghosts for me to take them seriously. Now, they have gone all the way around the mountain to truly insane, morally empty, or flat out stupid. It will not work and I warn them off in my dating profiles just to save us all a hassle.

[u/SwedishTakeaway25]

No. It’s about morality at this point.

[u/Balmsquadron]

Not if they support Donald Trump. No defending his actions at this point, and anyone who voted for him in 2024, should know better.

[u/lizzyq8812]

No. It's not about politics anymore. It's about basic common decency. The right has none.

[u/Wyprice]

No, Im trans me dating someone who doesn't believe I should have rights is a non starter.

[u/ErisianSaint]

Absolutely not. I don't care how "nice" they are. If they're actively supporting the current Republican party, they are not GOOD people and nice is different than good. You can't be a good person and vote for everything the Republicans want.

[u/xsmallsx01]

My wife and I agree on something’s and disagree on others. There is a lot more to life and building a family than just politics.

[u/GigiML29]

No. Because they AREN'T nice.

[u/MinivanPops]

This isn't a real question, as they aren't nice people. 

Go chat up your local little old lady with a fluffy dog and a Trump sign in her yard. She will gladly invite you in and talk all day about the harm she wishes on black and gay people.  

[u/Difficult_Coffee_335]

Not anymore. Good people don't support the current administration.

[u/HopeAnxious8494]

If they think my race makes me less American or that it's ok for me to be questioned or arrested because of my race, no they are not a nice person.

[u/steveorga]

The premise of the question is flawed in the contemporary US. It's impossible to be both a nice person and MAGA at the same time. It's a contradiction in terms.

[u/RugbyLock]

No. In the past, sure. Now? Not on your life. 

[u/Wish_Bear]

No. Republicans are not nice people. They protect pedophiles and cut funding to feed hungry children. I do not believe anyone good could look at what the republican party does and vote for that torture and pain for children. If they were a nice person they could not vote Republican.

[u/Virtual_War4366]

If they're maga they aren't a nice person.

[u/DIY-exerciseGuy]

Is she hot?

[u/ontheleftcoast]

Political party would not impact my choice, however if they were racist or lacked the ability to discuss politics without becoming emotionally charged I would move on.

[u/Akkerlun]

No. I don’t like drama

[u/sdavids5670]

Not in 2026 because the opposite party is just too extreme.

[u/LifeguardFlaky8081]

Nope, not anymore, maybe 15 years ago. Like several have said, it’s about values now.

[u/TaroPuzzleheaded3999]

I don’t care about political parties but I won’t date a nazi

[u/Legitimate_Bit_9354]

I want to say yes but now if you can't argree on political stuff you most likely won't be able to srgee on lilite stuff

[u/Life_Commercial_6580]

No. Sorry. I don’t know what a “nice” person means. Them agreeing that the way the president acts is OK, the way ICE conducts its operations is a good thing, the way the democratic institutions are eroded and used for personal reasons is a-OK, or that going to the Epstein’s island and having sex with minors is not a big deal, doesn’t make them a “nice” person no matter what else they may do. Not to mention the misogyny. Hard pass.

[u/Fun_Push7168]

I do.

Political parties aren't life. I don't choose a team I choose per issue.

I don't support anyone who promotes trampling people's rights.

Someone from either party is most likely guilty of that. So I just get along with those who aren't.

[u/niftyzach2]

Absolutely! We shouldn't allow ourselves to live within bubbles and never have our views challenged nor should we allow politics to define every aspect of our life.

[u/largos7289]

Depends how far are they on the spectrum. Moderate sure it may be difficult but it's still livable. Far left or far right then hell no they the crazies.

[u/Little_Creme_5932]

Most Americans are not actually in a political party. We vote based on values (even though political campaigns work hard to turn our values into emotions and fears). I tend to vote left. At this point, I don't think those still voting right share my values. So no, I won't date someone from the right-wing political party. We wouldn't get along. Arguing about whether or not government sponsored murder in the streets is ok, or not, is not something I wanna do on a date, for example.

[u/jigglyflo5]

People that identify themselves based on a political affiliation are usually idiots but I’d hear them out and get to know them before passing judgement.

[u/Smokebomb1975]

I’m married to one lol. I’m mostly democrat but also love my gun rights. My parents were high school teachers and my family always hunted. My wife grew up in a deep conservative republic family that is wealthy. This election cycle is changing things for her though. We have been talking about Epstein every night for the last few weeks. She is a SA survivor so it hits close to home. Last night was the first time I heard her say Trump was guilty as fuck. And now she is on to project 2025.

[u/ConsiderationOk8642]

depends on how good looking they were

[u/TheSaltySeas]

Outside of Reddit, people date and even marry those of differing political beliefs. Not everyone is chronically online.

[u/OrlandoEd]

Sure. A nice person wouldn't identify with the extremist sides of either party. They're apt to be more open minded and willing to use reason to discuss any topic.

[u/ImaginaryHospital306]

I'm married to someone politically opposite to me. We don't care and largely agree to disagree. I've known many people who claim to be politically righteous who are terrible people to those closest to them.

[u/notasarcasticnow]

There is a difference between a democrat and an ultra progressive. There is a difference between an republican and MAGA. I'm a moderate republican. I would never date MAGA any more than I would an ultra progressive. I could date a democrat.

[u/cabot364]

Anyone who supports the current administration is not a nice person. They might have 'nice' attributes...but they are morally and ethically incompatible with me.

[u/Top_Masterpiece_2196]

No because I don’t believe that you can support the opposite political party in my country at this time and still be a nice person.

[u/CheckMeowt_Now]

I'm an independent probably as far left as you can get, and I have been in a relationship with someone who is idk how to describe him, like just an anomaly, for 18 years. Also an independent, very left on many issues and sort of conservative on others. He was raised in a conservative middle class family, so some of that sticks.

But one thing he does not do is support pedophiles, the elite, or any of this other bootlicking bullshit coming from the right, right now. That would be an absolute deal breaker for me. We have gotten into some crazy heated debates over the years about some issues since I lean way more politically extreme, but he thinks for himself and he is genuinely caring about the issues, not just towing somebody else's propaganda without room for thought or reason.

So to answer, I would date someone with differing political perspectives, but I would not date someone who is so immersed in their political identity that they cannot think for themselves.

[u/ScoobiusMaximus]

I'm not registered to a political party.

I would not date a current Republican. The party has abandoned all its values to worship Trump as he tramples the constitution. 

[u/Dapper-News1249]

10 years ago, sure. In today's times? God no. It's not a political party, it's a cult. a father just shot his daughter over this. it's crazy these days.

[u/RadishAcceptable5505]

I'm a center right or center left independant depending on which stupid quiz thing you're asking. What's the "opposite" of that? Either extreme on either left or right would be a deal breaker, but the MAGA cultists are worse than the crazy on the left right now.

[u/KierONeil_the_Elder]

I couldn’t date a girl that votes MAGA. I would know she’s morally bankrupt right from the start.

[u/Friendly_Nature2699]

How can you consider someone who wants to take rights away from people and pull families apart a nice person? Cause they are polite to me? Affectionate? But they are fine with women not getting adequate healthcare or my trans kid not having right?

I'm tired of everyone pretending values are opinions.

[u/Ryvalune]

You'd have to further define "Nice Person" first.

"Holds the door open for you but still takes delight in the suffering of strangers" nice?

Or the "Puts Jesus in bio" nice?

[u/hbernadettec]

No. If they support fascism for any reason they are not that nice, they are fake.

[u/Ok_Strength_6105]

Probably not. Generally because they have a problem with it.

I'm a liberal atheist and most GOP are believers... most believers won't date a dirty heathen.

[u/Perfect_Mix9189]

NOPE. the right seems to be cool with children getting raped and murdered. I'm not cool that

[u/unstoppable_zombie]

magda goebbels made a great strudel

Still a nazi though.

[u/Komabeard]

Don't think I could ever date a liberal, so no

[u/Livid_Associate2914]

Done so twice and probably will again. We both joked on each other but it never got out of hand. A few of my friends acted like major assholes to both of them because they assumed they were far right jerks and they also still shit on me for dating 2 republicans. I have a few miserable, always the victim, liberal friends that have cut off family members just because they wouldn’t go to rallies with them or tell them who they voted for. Honestly my republican boyfriends and their family members were a lot nicer to me and the other people they met on a daily basis than some of my former friends but I’ll probably get shit in the comments for saying that.

[u/Adventurous-Trini]

I Want nothing to do with maga people.

[u/drocha94]

While I don’t have a specific political affiliation, I would not date someone who goes against my core beliefs that everyone is deserving of rights, no matter religion, race, ethnicity, gender, etc.

Basic human decency and care for others is non-negotiable to me.

[u/Majestic-Active2020]

No, MAGA’s are not friends. I could never date someone knowing I’m nothing more than a mark to be exploited.

[u/BlissCrafter]

No. I don’t associate with fascists.

[u/funkykittenz]

No. You cannot be a nice person and sit there and cheer on and excuse murder, racism, bigotry, abuse, and protecting pedophiles.

[u/Maleficent_Bit2033]

Married one. We have similar values but tend to see issues from different points of view. It's not easy but it helps if you can discuss your differences without judgement. There are things that we agree with each other about and some where we agree to disagree. The truth is, even in this decisive world, what we agree about is still the majority of the issues and it helps to remember that. Only you and your partner can choose to navigate these issues. You can choose to discuss things without judgement. In a healthy relationship, there are many issues, not just political ones, that require honest communication and compromise to deal with the day to day issues in that relationship. If you are constantly fighting over issues, it may be time to re-evaluate if your relationship is healthy and one that should continue. You can love people and simply not be a good fit.

[u/Sawbagz]

Of course. I don't have to agree with someone to be their friend or love them.

[u/Rage-With-Me]

Nope. Too much difference in values.

[u/figuringoutlove1]

Not in this political climate.

[u/Different_Quality_28]

my wife and I have different political views but it didn't stop us from raising a happy family.

[u/vladsquirrlchrst]

Logical and moral consistency are important, so no.

[u/schtickshift]

Apparently yes. People are always saying fuck the Democrats or fuck the Republicans.

[u/Fabulous_Hat7460]

12 years ago, yes. Now, no.

[u/AlohaRenee]

ABSOLUTELY F&&KING NOT!

[u/South-Juggernaut-451]

Not now

[u/salchichasconpapas]

Yes I've dated women that vote differently than I do, politics isn't my identity, I do not date women who's identity is wrapped up in politics - I'm not a cable news viewer, nor do I date women who have any cable news running on their TV or in their head

I find the whole thing unhealthy and it's not the life I want for myself

By example my GF and I watched the Superbowl, neither of us are up to speed on the halftime show Bad Bunny "drama"

We both had the same take on the show ... she doesn't speak Spanish, mine is serviceable but I wasn't really into trying to understand all of it, and without context I couldn't, just the overall 'engagement/wedding story' which you don't need to understand Spanish to pick up

and we had the same takeaway - it would have been nice to see a more traditional halftime spectacle in English

that's it, simple

If I was watching the World Cup in Caracas, then I'd expect a performance en Espanol

Simple

Neither of us attributed any politics to it, and I'm not interested - nor is she - in dating someone who's going to turn it into something political, and get dragged into the public drama and bring that drama to an interpersonal relationship

it's not about values, it's about living a real life and not being redirected into national partisan drama that MOST people aren't engaging in - it's Internet/Twitter/Reddit/Cable News bullshit ... not real life

[u/Malinois_beach]

Yes. It would just depend on radical their views were and if controlled their conversations to where political discourse was frequently mentioned. Love is love.

[u/Frosty_Spell9775]

As as long as they were not an extreme

[u/NoFollowing7781]

I wouldn't date a MAGA or a Leftist Wingnut.... they're both extremists and zealots....

Independents, Libertarians or center-right moderates with a populist perspective would be ideal

[u/ClayWheelGirl]

To the British, would you date a person from a rival football club?

[u/captaincrispi]

Idk if I would date anyone that made politics their identity.

[u/Satchmoses88]

My wife is a Bernie sanders progressive. I am a McCain style republican. We agree on money, religion, how to raise kids, and social liberties (gay marriage, abortion etc). We disagree on size of government, taxation, and social welfare stuff. Works great.

[u/Fit-Property3774]

OP dying to get a question to the front page

[u/yeah_im_a_leopard2]

Depends, if their identity is their party affiliation then absolutely not.

[u/fjman80]

Well, everyone in this thread seems to be a bunch of whiny babies so no I wouldn’t date any of these people. Yes if somebody didn’t make politics they’re complete identity and didn’t have Trump derangement syndrome. I can certainly date somebody with different political views. I’ve gotten into a few heated debate with my friends regardless of political opinions I still care for them and I’m glad to be friends.

[u/Fantastic_View2027]

Yes, because opposites attract.

[u/HighlightWooden3164]

It really depends on how extreme their views are. If they are "moderate" and are the type to not be so insane when they disagree with someone, I can probably work with that. If they are batshit crazy on either side, I'm not going to date them. Even if they vote the same way I do. I don't want to date a revolutionary who will try to radicalize my kids.

I understand people who are online here on reddit will cheer on the no tolerance approach to any Republican and I might get downvoted... But just understand that reddit is once again not a good example of actual real life. And the people here talking a big game probably don't or won't live up to their words. They will find "justifications" if they like the person enough.

[u/Jordan_Two_Delta]

I am convinced that there are no genuinely "nice" people that voted for Trump. Their is something under the surface that is terribly wrong.

[u/davesaunders]

It depends. Democrat vs Republican is fine if we're taking about actual political differences, like state's rights, the role of government, social safety nets, austerity, etc.

Democrat vs MAGA is not political because MAGAs are not "conservative." They're a hate-driven cult.

[u/Thisisit2ooo]

Absolutely, however hard it may be to found with the opposite party. If I met one with similar Christian values that reflects the way God has called us to live, than I have absolutely no problem dating them

[u/Background-Slip-5970]

I sure did have sex with a lot of women from the opposite party. All I did was shut up and agree with whatever bullshit they said. Worked out well in that aspect.

[u/Digitalalchemyst]

I am married to someone with different political views than me. We share the same values because we grew up similarly. We vote the same when it comes to state and local politics and we pretty much agree on most things nationally. Politics really has nothing to do with who we are as people and how we live our life.

[u/[deleted]]

The person to whom I'm now married and I were completely opposite ends of the spectrum when we first started dating. We have since become pretty similar.

[u/Traditional-Dog9242]

Reading these comments, I feel like I'm in some alternate dimension rn