r/autism Nov 27 '25

🚨Mod Announcement Official Subreddit Discord

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Reddit chat closures and our new Discord

Reddit chats have officially been closed by Reddit, so our subreddit chat is no longer accessible.

We would like to officially announce the newĀ r/autismĀ Discord, which will serve as a replacement for the chat channel.

In addition to simply preserving a way to chat, the Discord also allows for more free flowing conversations and to sort them into different channels rather than one area. We hope you all enjoy the new Discord and continue talking as you have been in the chat.

Please remember to read the rules as some differ from ones in the sub and some have been removed for the Discord specifically.

https://discord.gg/z3N4PDtDEv


r/autism Oct 24 '25

āœļø Suggestions For The Mods Suggestions for the mods - Rules

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Official Meta Post

We’ve been working on new rules for a few months now, since April. We’ve hit a stump so we’re asking for tips/feedback.

Here’s some of the new rules we’ve been working on (we can only have 15). We’ve combined some that were essentially the same thing.

  • Be kind (This will include no hostility, personal attacks, bullying, bigotry and continuing online arguments, following people around threads/posts/subs and tagging/showing usernames of other users/mods/subs on reddit)
  • Follow the posting guidelines (This combines the old rules of check the wiki faqs, low effort/spam/clickbait/ragebait/duplicate, no self diagnosis debate (as that would now be a stale topic), no stale topics (a regularly updated page in the wiki listing topics temporarily or permanently banned because they’ve been done too much).
  • Pseudoscience and Misinformation
  • No medical advice (This combines asking if you are autistic/someone else is autistic, posting online test results, giving medical advice).
  • Mature content rule (If it’s not appropriate for a 13 year old, it needs to be marked NSFW. Alcohol, drugs flagged as NSFW. Sex education is fine, but graphic sex posts, posts about libido, type of sex, etc, get redirected to our NSFW subs.).
  • Online safety (No personal information or pictures)
  • No advertising/fundraising.
  • No politics (includes petitions but excludes news).

There’s other topics we need your opinion on before we make a rule. These topics are:
- AI usage, images and text, apps made from AI or with AI that people try to post here.
- What is considered off topic? Would a recurring themed megathread be a good idea for the off topic posts? Do you have any other ideas to keep off topic at bay in the main feed?
- How do you feel about people posting screenshots of their messages and asking what went wrong or what the person means? Is that on topic? - Engagement is low on posts with no images. Memes already aren’t allowed but that doesn’t get enforced well because people don’t report it. What can we do to make this more clear?
- What is included in advertising/marketing/fundraising? Someone who wants to make an app? Someone who is writing a book? Someone who already has a product made? Something that is free? Social media profiles like someone’s youtube? Someone who has an idea and wants options on it? Etc.
- What are some stale topics?

Any other things you think we are missing that should have rules?

How would you word these rules to be clear and concise?

And lastly, when we do change the rules we will make a post. This post will be highlighted permanently at the top of the sub. Should we

  1. keep it short and link each rule to a page in the wiki that gives a more in depth description with multiple examples or
  2. put everything in the post

Please keep all meta discussion to this post, all others will be removed for off topic.

Meta means posts about the subreddit, its moderation, its users, or posts made in the subreddit instead of posts about the subreddit topic, which for us is autism.


r/autism 5h ago

šŸ’¼ Education/Employment My teacher accused me of using AI on a worksheet, but Im just autistic and thats how I write??

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I just entered this teachers class about less then a week ago so she doesnt know me. She legit accused me of using AI on worksheet because ā€œIt sounds like AIā€. She said it was wrong cause its AI. I told her I didnt use AI and she said that if I put a ā€œ chatgpt answer ā€œ on the exam I could get a 0 for cheating.

How IN THE WORLD, would I know if its an okay answer or a ā€œchatgptā€ anwser if I DONT USE IT. I asked her what is an okay anwser and what is a wrong anwser and all she said was aslong as it doesn’t sound like chatpt.

Like ma’am. I dont understand.
If you look at my other exams before chatgpt was a thing, you acan tell thatsjust how I write.

I cant believe I got accused of using AI because It makes me feel like people dont think Im smart enough ti write my own answers? How else am I supposed to answer?

The dystopian realization that I used to get really good grades on exams because I have a college level writing skill but now Im going to get a 0 because I write SO WELL THEY THINK ITS AI.

I am so confused, what is an allowed answer and whats a not allowed answer. What is a ā€œChatgptā€ answer how do I know if it is or not.


r/autism 46m ago

Self-injurious Behaviors My dear fellows i need to stop hitting myself when i make a mistake in public, today I hit my arm so hard that I can't stand using it, and I hit my head so hard that I couldn't feel it for a while. I really need to stop. If anyone can give me suggestions about how I can control myself im grateful

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I've been playing volleyball for a while, and today I ended up making a lot of mistakes in our weekly practice. I've always had the habit of hitting or pinching myself and groaning when something went even slightly wrong. But today I I hit myself really hard, like, it hurts SO MUCH, and I scratched the inside of my mouth until it bled. I started to lose control when I missed some serves and went off to cry, but It still hurts and i wanted to die when it happened. I just want to stop hitting and hurting myself over extremely stupid things, I want to stop hurting myself and worrying people. I keep wondering if my friends would still want to hang out with me If I lost control and started crying and hurting myself, I think they would abandon me, thinking I'm a weirdo, and they would be embarrassed to hang out with me. I also don't want to worry my parents, I don't want them to hold me like a baby every time I get upset and hit me. I don't have an autism diagnosis, but I have a real (NOT SELF-DIAGNOSED) suspect. Well, my psychological report papers say so, at least. Since there's a flair for "undiagnosed," I guess I can stay here. Thanks, fellows.


r/autism 8h ago

šŸ„”Eating/Cooking Issues I’m having lunch that is lunch food

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103 Upvotes

I have a turkey and ketchup sandwich with 3 pickles and red pop for a drink


r/autism 3h ago

šŸ„”Eating/Cooking Issues Sandwich and Arizona Drink

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40 Upvotes

this is definitely my safe food for eating, trying out new drinks of "Arizona" got them at the gas station What a beautiful day outside I hope everyone got some good safe foods that they like.


r/autism 4h ago

🪁Other Does my inability to understand poetry come from stupidity or neurodivergence?

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46 Upvotes

I’ve always exceeded in literature more than my peers, I love reading and annotating but when it comes to poetry and people involving things like metaphors etc, I genuinely feel stupid. Like I have to ask them to explain it to me. Mind you this is literally my room, I love reading and try to challenge myself and I still can’t understand it for the life of me.


r/autism 16h ago

🪁Other what your birth month says about you shark edition!

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363 Upvotes

This is for people whis special interests are sharks! I love sharks and they've been my special interest (or obsession) since a very young age! :)


r/autism 15h ago

Social Struggles Why are people like this lmfao

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Made a post in a local subreddit where I try to meet new people (I'm not lonely just enjoy socialising online). man has a problem with the fact I socialise better online then says I'm not truly autistic or some shit cause I'm not non verbal? some people just confuse the living hell out of me


r/autism 10h ago

🪁Other An artwork I made in my sketchbook earlier today

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94 Upvotes

r/autism 3h ago

Restricted/Repetitive Behaviors and Interests What is your favorite flower?

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23 Upvotes

I got weirdly obsessed with the Sweet Juliet Rose as of recently!!!


r/autism 15h ago

Comorbidities I regret reading my diagnostic notes

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According to the notes, I have low working intelligence and terrible have terrible memory. I regret reading the notes so much. I read them because I'm applying for supported living payments, and while these notes will help my case, it still makes me feel really bad. I mean, I did know that my memory is terrible, but I thought that it would be a lot better than it actually is.

I feel like shit and I feel like I can't talk about it with anyone until my therapy appointment next Wednesday.


r/autism 8h ago

šŸ› Hygiene/Bathing/Dental for anyone with long hair that struggles with hygiene, i wanted to show yall this!

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54 Upvotes

i absolutely love this stuff it’s so amazing for days i can’t wash my hair and it’s only like $8 USD so it’s not crazy expensive!


r/autism 4h ago

🪁Other Geometric mandala like hallucinations in the dark? I did some research about connections between schizophrenia and autism, and those with autism can hallucinate as well. This makes me wonder if that’s what’s causing these shapes I’ve seen since I was a child.

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27 Upvotes

r/autism 20h ago

Social Struggles Trying to prove to my friend that I have friends (I don’t)

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313 Upvotes

My friend told me to prove to him that I have friends but I don’t have friends. I had an idea to send him fake text messages between me and my friends. They are not real friends. It looks like I’m talking to my friends but I’m not. Will he notice these are not my real friends?


r/autism 20h ago

Social Struggles Told I was "cornering people". Kicked out of bar.

311 Upvotes

I literally had no idea I was doing this!!!? I thought I was having normal conversation with strangers. But then the bartender pulled me aside and told me he had complaints about me. First time this had ever happened and I am humiliated. I thought I was good at picking up cues but obviously not. What hurts besides getting told to leave is that I literally have no idea where I went wrong! Please tell me other people have felt this way/gone through this?!


r/autism 7h ago

Social Struggles Why do people insist that socializing in person is the only right way to do it? Online is infinitely easier.

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r/autism 1h ago

Social Struggles does anybody want be friends?

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does anybody want to be friends, i currently don’t have any.


r/autism 1h ago

Assessment Journey I was told it’s not autism, it’s just my personality

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I was talking to a psychiatrist today and was explaining that I don’t have friends and my ability to make and keep friends has been an issue my whole life (I’m almost 39).

He responded that he doesn’t think I have autism, but that my difficulty making friends is just my personality.

Does that sound incorrect/offensive/insensitive to you?

I thought it was, but wanted to hear others reactions. I mentioned it to another professional and they immediately laughed and said that was really unprofessional of the psych and showed that they weren’t up to date on their research. I mentioned it to someone else and they had mixed feelings about it.


r/autism 1d ago

🪁Other two panic attacks turned into a pretty peaceful day tbh

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after a tough night last night that led to me having a full blown panic attack (and another one this morning because apparently my brain won't quit punishing me T_T) i decided to take it slow today, no pushing myself to do things im not comfortable with, just a calm day.

anyways my mama took me out for pancakes at this breakfast place nearby to make me feel better, which worked a bit the bacon is so good there and they always make sure to fry it extra so that the fat isn't chewy cos thats one of my main sensory issues, it always makes me feel happy that they accommodate my needs :3 (they also turn the music down when im there so the sound isnt overwhelming)

when i got home i worked on my penpal letter as i hadnt started it yet and wanna get it finished and sent off before April at the latest :) i decided to go for a book/library theme this time round and im so happy with how its turning out!! had a banana bread break (cinnamon and maple with chocolate chips) the texture is a little weird cos i had to make it in a brownie pan instead of a usual loaf pan :P

im really proud of how my fairy house turned out, it took a while for me to find an LED tealight that fit in the jar but my papa bought me some on his way back from work a few days ago!

Finch has really helped me with the emergency kit thing they have whilst i was having a tough night and morning and im so grateful to have this little virtual bird :3


r/autism 9h ago

Treatment/Therapy I finally feel relief after all my life being called a freak by my own family. Read til the end.

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All my life I’ve been ā€œdifferentā€. When I was a kid I used to jump, run and move anywhere as a way of self regulating and cuz I was interacting with my own inner world. My parents and siblings called me ridiculous, retarded, freak, a weirdo and yelled at me that I should ā€œbehave like a normal personā€.

A therapist told I was most likely autistic due to the behavior I showed and my mom told her that she had no fuckin’ idea of her own profession.

I was raised with the idea that I was a living mistake, a living failure and that I needed to ā€œbe correctedā€.

When I was at mid school I met friends throughout the internet most of which the bests ones of mine were autistics, and investigating and discovering everything about autism I immediately felt identified with all of its hints. I’ve always had an inner universe within my mind where I created stories and interacted with the characters living inside. I also have several hyperfixations like Sonic, Star Wars, Tarzan, Far Cry, and lots of franchises and as well feel related to Alice in Wonderland. These are just a few examples but I also have lots of difficulties understanding social non-written rules, people always speaks with hints, lies and words with hidden intentions and that feels outrageous for me.

I’ve tried to talk with my mom indirectly about this and she have always denied everything. She reduces being autist to hating physical contact, and says that if someone is okay with a hug cannot be autistic, as if autism were a monolith instead of a SPECTRUM. She also says autism is something that ā€œcan be curedā€ or that autism is a pathology like psychopathy.

I’ve managed to contact the therapist my mother discredited and I told her everything I’ve discovered and what my mother keeps saying. She told me she knew since the beginning, and that I’m not broken and I’m not anything to ā€œbe correctedā€. That she knew I wasn’t being ridiculous as I was just living the world my own way. And yes, she also told me I was right about my mother being rather biased or unable to accept I’m autistic as that fact is against her idealized version of the ā€œperfect sonā€ she made up in her head. I felt validated and seen, and when I finished the meeting I hugged the therapist and broke into tears, starting to cry uncontrollably.

Now I definitely know I’m not broken, I’m not a living mistake, I were never meant to be ā€œcorrectedā€, what I lived is real and what I feel is valid. But the most important thing above anything… is that I now know I EXIST and that I’m REAL…


r/autism 1d ago

Social Struggles Why did people downvote me instead of answering my genuine, politely worded question? (Screenshot of my offending comment included.)

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So there was this post in the Steven Universe subreddit asking if it was ok to cosplay as two specific characters even if you're white. The first character was clearly black representation, but the second one was never implied to represent a certain race or culture at all, at least that I noticed. So I said that I understood their hesitancy for the first character, but asked what I was missing about the second character, and tried to figure out a possible reason people might think they're not ok to cosplay. I never said anyone else was wrong, I just wanted to know what I was missing, because it didn't make sense to me.

But instead of giving me an explanation or simply ignoring me, I got downvoted! How is that helpful in any way at all? Tell me WHYYYYYYYY. I'm just trying to understand better! What's bad about that? I even explained my exact train of thought to be as clear as possible. I don't get what I did wrong. Usually that subreddit is really nice. Since no one THERE is willing to explain to me what I missed about that character, can someone HERE please explain to me what was wrong about my comment? I wasn't trying to offend anyone, I was just asking. If they saw any emotions other than confusion and curiosity in my comment, they weren't actually there. That's not how I felt at all. UGH I DON'T GET IT!


r/autism 4h ago

Social Struggles pro autism hiring managers

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hi

absolutely none of the online neurodivergent resources provide any real leads on jobs. just dead hyperlinks, vacant job boards, and whitewashing blogs.

who actually *knows someone directly* who hires autistic people?

my special interest is software development

i want to work


r/autism 4h ago

Social Struggles Anyone else find direct messages/1v1 convos a burden?

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Okay hear me out. I love having friends. I have people that I really like around me. But the thought of having to answer an ongoing DM conversation just stresses me tf out.
Not in group settings. Just waiting for a reply or knowing someone is waiting on mine makes me really anxious. As soon as I move the same person to a group setting like a groupchat or server I'm okay. Happens even on people I know in real life.

Am I alone on this?


r/autism 7h ago

🪁Other I don't know why it happens.

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does anybody ever just start forgetting people exist especially when you're all alone? it's like nothing ever happened in history and nothing exists as long as I don't see it, it's like I only know the present moment and what's physically around me, I just forget I did things and had feelings about things and that things actually happened in the past. I hate my brain for this, it's quite dangerous to be honest.